Ahhhh counselling cancelled for 4th time now 6 months wait!!!

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Been waiting 11 months and told initally it would be 4-6 weeks waiting list ha!
Then cancelled then counsellor left then told September then in September told start 2012, letter last week to say long waiting list and at least 6 months. It's Women's Aid.

Ok I know I don't have full blown PTSD, but I have some of the symptoms. ExP has repeatidly try to break into my house kicking door in forcing it open with screwdrivers etc over 4 years and an unusal object that I can only say resembles a petrol bomb and ex has tried hard to break open the metal sealed letterbox by the arson team for some reason:(...ex only stopped because of CCTV put up.

I was really looking forward to trying to move on and literally move on by moving...needed the counselling to help me through it tbh, feel so let down!

I am finding it very hard 'psychologically' to even try and start to think of moving...the man has beaten be with physical threats cyber threats and I do feel defeated. Besides the reports to SS time after time.
I feel so trapped here, knowing ex knows where we are. Refuge isn't an option with ds SN's. My only saving grace is ds doesn't have contact and ex doesn't have PR as ex did physically abuse ds this I know to get to me:(

Can your GP refer you on the NHS? The waiting list may be a bit shorter.

all the gp offer is inhouse basic counselling, specialist trauma 'PTSD' counselling (CBT) is needed. Waiting lists on NHS are even longer 2 years+....mind you if I put my name down at same time fir NHS as WA I might have been seen quicker by NHS but it's 12 months too late aggghhh

My work paid for mine. I also paid for some via private medical cover. Would going private be too costly for you?

I had to give up work 5 yrs ago re ds disability so no money, nothing

Aren't there any volunteer agencies? I know that in our nearest big town there's a youth service run by volunteers and staffed by trained and qualified counsellors who kindly give a few hours a week each for free.

I'm sorry you will have to put up with such a long wait. It will be a question of firefighting the symptoms until then. Do you have any other support?

Women's Aid are charity organisation...to have I think from a depression charity I would have to have depression my issues are under the 'DV' not depression...which I don't have, just about fighting that off tbh

No it has been v isolating with home educating for over 5 yrs although I have met one friend since ds started school other month and I have human contact then once a week:)

My elderly mum visits most Sunday afternoons she is great support.

I guess another 6 months is nothing this has been going on since 2008 since attacks started. I was just hoping 2012 would be the year I moved, start afresh to escape this nasty man's abuse (although not physical anymore - reporting me, cyberbulling and threats written indirectly etc).

If you can't access one on one counselling have you tried finding a local support group? Not a replacement but a place to talk and meet people with similar experiences.

The other thing to try would be to learn some CBT on your own. There are free online courses with Mood Gym and your local library will have books or apes to borrow I'm sure of it.

Hang in there, you are amazing to have come this far

thanks everyone for your support and ideas...Lady I will look at Mood Gym...never heard of it thanks...I think it is the 'real face to face' contact I need as I have been so isolated...maybe Women's Aid will let me do the Freedom Program as they wanted me to do it after I moved.

From my own experience (complex PTSD) while specialist counselling is good, if it is not there other forms can help too. I had 14 sessions with a local NHS practice therapist who did miracles to stabilise me, which got me ready to tackle the real bad stuff later.