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I nearly jumped off a bridge today

33 replies

Memoo · 11/01/2012 21:59

That is all. Just wanted to tell somebody.

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JoyceDivision · 11/01/2012 22:04

Can't offer much help but please stay on here and keep talking.

Are you ok now, how are you feeling?

ilooklikegrotbagstoday · 11/01/2012 22:05

Doesn't sound like you're having a good time of things Memoo. Do you want to chat?

mohara · 11/01/2012 22:05

Memoo-are you ok? Do you have someone with you at the moment? I am probably useless to you but will stay here with you to keep you company if you like while we wait for someone to come along with some practical advice........((hug))

TrinityRhino · 11/01/2012 22:06

memoo, please talk
I feel like I know you even though I totally don't

Selks · 11/01/2012 22:08

Get help. Go and talk to your GP urgently. Don't ignore this.....you need to help yourself with this.

If you feel suicidal again to the point of planning to do something about it, go straight to A&E.

giraffesCanGoFirstFootingOnNYE · 11/01/2012 22:10

You need to get some help - idealy tonight, if not then tomorrow.

Memoo · 11/01/2012 22:20

I have lots of help. I'm on meds and see a psychiatrist regularly.

It doesn't work though.

I feel quite calm tbh. Just very sure that there is no point to life at all. Seriously, can anyone tell me what the point of it is?

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ShineYourButtonsWithBrasso · 11/01/2012 22:22

Memoo, no. What has happened recently to feel this turn?

Have you seen your psyc recently?

I'm so glad you posted, such a brave thing to do

ShineYourButtonsWithBrasso · 11/01/2012 22:23

Oh and I'm having a namechange, we have spoken before and that is why you got a

Memoo · 11/01/2012 22:29

Hugs are good :)

Nothing has happened. Christmas was stressful but apart from that things have been quite steady until a few weeks ago.

I am going to get Dh to phone cpn tomorrow.

I don't feel upset or anything. In fact I feel quite calm. When I stood on the bridge and looked down into the water I just wanted to be in. Submerged. I imagine it would be very peaceful to just sink to the bottom and stay there.

I'm really pissed that I can't do it.

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ShineYourButtonsWithBrasso · 11/01/2012 22:35

Admiting it and getting support is harder than actually having the feeling imo.
Are you taking your meds correctly?

I only ask because I would mess up my meds in my calmer states because time would pass without me knowing.

Glad to hear you have RL help and really pleased you have recognised the calm and irational side to know something isn't right.
Is your DH supportive?

I'm not dissapearing but I am going outside for a faagghhh, back in a mo.

ChippingInLovesEasterEggs · 11/01/2012 22:36

Memoo - I really wish you lived near me. I just want to hug you and make it all better (I know even if I was near you and I could hug you, I couldn't just 'make it better' - but I so want to x).

It scares me more that you feel so calm, the other day when you posted I was really worried about you. I am terrified that one day you will stop posting and I wont be able to contact you to make sure you are OK :(

I think you are right - I think it would be lovely to go into the water and be submerged - very peaceful. However, this is NOT what happens when you jump in off a bridge/drown. It really isn't - it's flappy, scary, distressing, violent... it is not peaceful and calm.

I am not at all pissed that you can't do it - I'm bloody thrilled. You have a lot of genuine friends on here - we want to help you x

I know it's a bit of a lentil weavery thing to suggest - but have you ever tried things like yoga/meditation/saltwater floating/massage etc?

Lots of love x

Arana · 11/01/2012 22:48

Hey Memoo, I'm afraid I don't know you, or the situation you're in.

I've come close myself - to the extent of planning it all out, and spending an hour on the bridge itself - just thinking about what out was I wanted to do. I thought I wanted to die, but more than anything I just wanted a way out - I wanted to escape. I also wanted those previous seconds of freedom before the inevitable hit.

I was convinced that my husband and children would be better off without me, and although in the short term there'd be some grieving, long term things would be far better with me out of the picture.

I then thought about a different, less permanent way of doing it - writing a suicide note, then just disappearing. That way if I changed my mind, I wouldn't be dead. I don't know what it was about that scenario, but it hit me just how hard suicide would be for my family. I imagined my husband trying to explain the situation to my children, and knew that they'd never accept it without blaming themselves, and I didn't want that. I thought of the first Christmas with me not there. I thought of the stigma they'd have growing up, that not even their mother loved them enough to stick around - regardless of the intentions, that's how it would be taken.

It was imagining watching my kids growing up from afar, but not being able to join in that really upset me. That moment for me was an epiphany, and I realised that almost anything else I did would hurt my children and the people I love less than suicide.

It doesn't stop me wanting to kill myself, but I know deep down, it's not what I want to do to those around me.

I have a safety net now that if I want to kill myself, I'll get on a train and disappear for a few days. If I still want to kill myself after that, then so be it.

That's just my 2p.

giraffesCanGoFirstFootingOnNYE · 11/01/2012 22:48

You say you have lots of help but having a clear plan and nearly carrying it out is a medical emergency. You are not safe if you feel that way. You are ill, it is really important you see a Dr tomorrow.

TrinityRhino · 11/01/2012 22:55

oh darling memoo

its not calm at all to jump off a bridge


you want to run away and hide?
climb under the covers and be safe and away from everything??

just pause the world, make everything stop and find some genuine peace?

I know, I know, I do too

please don't stop breathing, you are ill and it can be fixed, I swear to god, you will not feel like this forever

you can be chuffed to get something for less than it was priced cause it beeped at a cheaper price
to see a fighter jet fly over (so loud and amazing)
to see the first butterfly of the spring
to find a rainbow
to find a tenner in your pocket

life is good, it really is

I know this won't touch you right now but maybe you will reread later

TrinityRhino · 11/01/2012 22:56

and you must go to the cpm or a and e and tell them what you were going to do
doctors or anything

I would love you to pm me so I could try and contact you if I don't see you around

please keep taking to us
we aren't judging
we want you to be ok

Memoo · 11/01/2012 23:23

You are all really truly amazing. I can't think straight now. I'm do tired I just need to sleep. I will be back in tbe morning.

Thank you all from tbe bottom of my heart. You have no idea how much it helps me to have such support

Night xx

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ChippingInLovesEasterEggs · 11/01/2012 23:44

Sleep well - 'see' you tomorrow xxx

TheReturnoftheSmartArse · 11/01/2012 23:49

Nighty night, Memoo. MN is a wonderful place and there's always someone around to talk and listen.

Memoo · 12/01/2012 08:47

I'm having a lazy day today. Just going to snuggle up on the couch with dd and watch tv.
Had a good chat with Dh last night. And had a good cry. I haven't cried for a long time and i actually felt better afterwards, it was a real release.
Dh is going to phone the doctors today and explain how bad things are.

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JugglingWithSnowballs · 12/01/2012 09:09

Glad you're feeling a bit better this morning, Memoo.
Snuggling up on the couch with dd sounds great. I wish I could but mine's at school today ! Really pleased to hear you've talked with your DH and you're getting some support today. Take care Memoo x

ChippingInLovesEasterEggs · 12/01/2012 20:36

Memoo - how did it go at the Doctors?? Thinking of you x

TheLightPassenger · 12/01/2012 21:48

Hope the doctor was helpful, sorry you are feeling so bad Memoo.

Memoo · 12/01/2012 22:27

Hi all, my usual GP wasn't there. I had to see the locum who has just given me more diazepam to last until I see my psychiatrist on Monday.

My cpn phoned too and gave me a really long pep talk. We went through all my coping strategies that I've learnt over the past few years. I felt a lot calmer after talking to him. I just need to hold out til Monday.

Had a lovely day with dd. We stayed in our pj's and just cuddled up on tbe couch walking cbeebies and reading. It was really nice.

My cpn said it's really common for people who are struggling with depression to have a blip over Christmas time. He thinks I've being putting too much presure on myself to make everything perfect and now it's over my mood has basically just crashed. He makes a lot of sense really.

I do feel much calmer tonight. I'm going to try and just rest lots over the weekend. I'm so tired at the moment and that certainly impacts on my mood.

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