Panic attacks arent fair in my DD

[Browneyedgirl3107]

I have suffered from anxiety and panic attacks since i was 12, i have seen several different counsellors for them and even a hypnotherapist to try to cure them, but i have finally faced facts that they are there and arent going to go. I struggle with socialisin as i am constantly worryin that i mite have to leave if i start panickin and everyone will think im wierd, i wont go far in the car as im terrified of traffic jams, and also queuein in shops. I am very restricted in where i go because of this.
I'm worried that my daughter is goin to miss out on things because of how i am, i havent been to toddler groups with her, i took her totumble tots with my mum but i wasnt comfortable.
I get incapacity benefit as i cant work due to this, does anyone know if i would eligable for help with the cost of a nursery for her so she can build social skills as i feel im holdin her back from doing this, just a couple of hours a week would do her the world if good. Any ideas on who to phone for advice about this?

How old is she? I think she can go to preschool at 3 which won't cost anything.

I presume you are a single parent if you get incapacity benefit for this so maybe there is more financial help out there but I'm not aware of it.

Have you tried propranalol for anxiety? You would only have to take it when needed and its not addictive.

Have you got a children's centre near you? There may be family support workers based there who can help you get a funded nursery place for your dd - or ask your HV about it?

Yes speak to your HV. I would also try Homestart, a volunteer could take your daughter to any groups. You can refer yourself to them.

Don't give up on getting better though. It is possible to get over panic attacks. If you want anymore advice PM me.

I'm the daughter of a mum with panic attacks just as you describe, my brother and I didn't get to do many of the usual stuff as children but we both had a happy childhood and grew up as fine as any of us do.

That said, there is some funding for some 2 year-olds to have pre-school education and I have known of at least one child to get that funding because of a parent with anxiety problems. Do you feel able to contact your LEA or a pre-school to enquire, or could your mum?

Im in a relationship with my daughters dad, the benefit i receive is severe disablement allowance. Yes sailorsgirl I have tried propanalol, also tho docs did put me on diazepam and cipramol but when I got pregnant i stopped them all, and am now just taking amitriptyline at night. Ive tried so many different things to get rid of them i.e therapies and medication but they wont go. My daughter is 17mths so doesnt really need to be in nursery yet but i think she is missing on other baby clubs due to this, and needs more social skills. I have my HV comin later this month so will talk to her about it also.
Thankyou for your responses to this. X

I wouldn't worry too much about social skills yet - they don't need toddler groups, she'll be happy with you at this age. I really would recommend you ask your HV about children's centres/family support services in your area - I work in a CC and we support lots of families with similar issues to you, including with things like drop-in groups and accessing free nursery places from 2.

Im glad to hear there is help available for me, ive been dreading certain things im gonna have to do while shes growin up that are goin to cause me to panic. Is it true that when ur child starts nursery you have to sit in there for a couple of sessions with them? I will find this hard to do but hopefully if i explain it to the people who run it they will understand that i may have to leave.
I feel my DD is also missing out on things like kids birthday parties cos most people have parties n invite other kids from their baby group or other mums they interact with, but my little 1 is missing out on these things. None of my friends have kids either.
I really dont want her missing out on anything because of how i am but she already is. :(

Stop worrying about the future. That is part of the problem with anxiety. I will pm you some info that you may find useful. Just enjoy all those precious moments with your daughter. Take care. x

Thankyou. Day at a time.x