Hi friends me again

[NotaStrongWoman]

It's been three months since I was last here. It's been a tough few months so getting to my computer has not been easy. But I really appreciated the support I got back in October so am back again.

Basically at the moment I am feeling downright fed up, overtired, lonely and worried. Again, I don't think I'm depressed, but I have had a lot to deal with lately. The reason I am posting now though is that I wish I knew how to tell people I feel like this - I mean people in the real world? It is so hard to ring up your friends who are used to hearing you as your bubbly self and say, God I feel c**p right now and definitely NOT strong!

Can anyone offer any tips??

I am also interested in any advice about PMT (I know this is the wrong place really to be asking) but I think I certainly feel less strong at certain times of the month eg the last two weeks before my period. Thanks

Well half a bottle of wine and chocolates has certainly helped this evening!

Seriously though, I don't know. I've been here so many times before. I do think as I'm getting older I am becoming more honest with myself, and wouldn't be against a good old blub with my friend. Knowing me though I'll be on top of the world tomorrow and end up comforting her about something - that's what usually happens!

God! You are me!
This was how i was, down one day and ok the next ready to take on any thing!
Just talk to her.
Will you feel guilty for talking to her about yourself?
Are you worried about how to bring the converstaion round to the subject?
Are you worried about ruining a nice social meetup with talk of your woes?

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It is difficult because it goes against the grain.
Try it, when she asks how are you, say "not so good actually". "do you ,mind if i talk to you about it?"

That way you are asking if its ok, she will go ahead and give you permission therefore entering a conversation AT HER OWN PERIL!!!!!

She will either listen patiently to you or will suddenly remember something on her stove that requires immediate attention, flag down a taxi and be off...out of there like shit off a shovel!
If she is a good mate then i think that she will be more than interested and will want to help.
What do you think to that cunning plan???!!!

additionally she will fell flattered and touched that you are confiding in her!

feel, feel feel!!!
Sorry just swigged night nurse and its kicking in so am slurring my typing....

Thanks donbean you are a star. Good luck with the nightnurse... hope you feel better in the morning. My typing is a bit slurred - but that's the wine! Night Night

ok night nurse well and truly kicked in ... need to go to bed.
Think about what we have said hun, you are a lovely friend to these folk and i bet they love you to bits and care a great deal about your happiness, let someone in. Be a bit kinder to yourself x
HTH

All choked up now donbean. Thanks. Think I'll turn in now too.

My post just disappeared in front of my eyes. I think I said....

I told my friend, but it didn't go quite as planned. She was lovely about it but said it was to be expected that I was feeling a bit overwhelmed and that she's sure I'll feel better soon. We spent the rest of the evening laughing and joking as usual, which was great, but I would have liked a bit of a counselling session and a big hug too!

See, everyone thinks I'm the strong one...