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NOT SURE IF I HAVE PND

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loopyredangel · 03/01/2006 15:06

Been sat in front of this for ages, not knowing what to write! I had SPD during pregnancy and had to leave work early, so felt quite isolated, I couldn't leave the house because I was in so much pain. Since I had my DS the SPD didn't go away, and I have not been able to do the things I have wanted to do with him like go out for a walk or lift him out of his crib! I had to have and emergency c-section and I have become so paranoid about my husband touching my waistline, I can't get changed in front of him, and I can't look in the mirror when getting dressed. I get so up and and down about simple things. I managed to get to the shopping centre with my mum, and she took the baby to a shop while I went to try get Christmas cards, and because I couldn't find them I broke down and cried. I am supposed to be back in work in 2 weeks time, but my pelvis is still sore, Idon't feel I can face anyone in work because I tend to put up a front. I don't want to go to the doctors because I don't want tablets, I just don't know what to do.

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MarsLady · 06/01/2006 23:10

good to hear from you loopy. Your HV sounds nice! Well done for talking to her!

hunkermunker · 06/01/2006 23:10

Brilliant, LRA - am really glad to hear it. You already sound brighter - helps to know there are people you can talk to, both on here and in RL. Enjoy the baby massage classes - and don't think I won't be checking up on you

No, no sign of the baby - ah well, due a week tomorrow, so will be soon!

Skribble · 07/01/2006 17:28

Hi loopy glad you spoke to the HV. It will help getting out and about and involved in classes like the massage, just talking to other mums and sharing experiences over a coffee are great.

My DD is now 6yrs and the highlight of my socialising is a coffee at the cafe with the other mums when she is at her dance classes. I didn't think I could manage to join in but I took the plunge 2 yrs ago and plonked myself down in the middle of them and just started listening and nodding at first.

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loopyredangel · 07/01/2006 19:16

Had a better day today, after advice from everyone hear and HV. DS has been very interested in our food for the past week and I spoke to the HV about it, he is only 18 weeks but already weighs in at 17lb 1oz, she advised weaning. So I tried him with a bit of apple puree, I was apprehensive at first thought he would hate it - but he loved it, couldn't get enough of the stuff!!! So I feel great because I have achieved that today! Just need to wean him off using my boob as a dummy!!!

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madmarchhare · 07/01/2006 19:46

Its great your feeling a bit perkier. Let us know how you go with the doc.

QueenVictoria · 07/01/2006 22:40

Glad you are feeling better LRA

Its good you have a great HV, mine is great too and it makes a huge difference to know you have the support and back up if you need it.

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loopyredangel · 09/01/2006 23:36

Had a massive migraine attack this morning, I have been getting so worked up about going back to work, I have exhausted myself with worry. The doctor had to come out to see me this morning, I felt as though I was dying the pain was horrendous. Anyway I am going to see the doc on Friday and explain what's been going on. I think this morning has scared me, there is no way I am going to stay down like this anymore!

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hunkermunker · 09/01/2006 23:38

I think that if you tell your GP how you're feeling, you'll be signed off for a while - be open about how you feel and keep posting x x x

MarsOnLife · 18/01/2006 18:22

how you doing loopyred?

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loopyredangel · 20/01/2006 01:28

Spoke to my doctor, ended up breaking down talking to her. She was very supportive, has signed me off with depression, we talked about medication and counselling. Don't want to try medication yet, so I went to a group called Time for Me, they do all kinds of stuff like card making and music groups. So Iwent along with my mum as I can't carry the baby on my own. We had to wear name badges and introduce ourselves, the baby had to go into a creche which I didn't like because that was the first time apart. I lasted five minutes, broke down, and left. The entire experience just made me feel worse, no amount of counselling or tambourine shaking is going to make me feel better. So I made enquiries at my local children's centre and I am going to try a mother and baby group where everybody is welcome so my mum can come along and help out! I think I just need to take things day by day, but to be honest the only way I am going to feel better mentally, is when I am feeling better physically!

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MarsOnLife · 21/01/2006 10:04

Well I'm glad that the experience has made you positive even though you didn't like it.

Not all counselling will be like that, so keep an open mind.

Am thinking of you today.

MarsOnLife · 26/01/2006 10:15

How's it going?

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