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Unload your 2005 SH*T and move on here!

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santagotstuckOOPSthechimney · 02/01/2006 21:16

This may be a long one, but I just need to get some stuff off my chest as we move into the new year.
please feel free to unload your 2005 here too...
pk, beginning of the year i turned 40, waqs very ill with being in first trimester of second pg.

My birth mother accused my BIL (DH of my adopted sister) of being a paedophile. She passed the "evidence" to me and I passed it on to my adopted parents who accused him. My birth mother then changed her story so I had to retract it all- on my 40th birthday.

I had a lovely ds2 but found the first 2 months of his life a blinking struggle,

DH was made redundant AGAIN and was off work for 2 months, having just changed jobs. The new job employed him for 6 weeks and paid him for 2 weeks.

My Adopted mum got ill and died 5 weeks ago

News of my missing birth brother today has indicated he has a police record and is in some sort of hostel in amsterdam. My birth mother is beside herself about this and has gone a bit loopy yet again.....

I am at least 4 stone overwieght again (lost it all pre-kids) and tonight my tooth is hurting so much there are tears rolling down my face. i really don't want to start crying as i don't know if i can stop

Happy New Year everyone

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hunkermunker · 02/01/2006 21:18

Oh, Oops

Not sure if you "do" hugs, but you're blinking well having one {{{{{{Oops}}}}}}}}

lalaa · 02/01/2006 21:20

big hug. sorry life is so tough for you right now.

2006 is just beginning. wave goodbye and don't look back. sort the things in your control and seek support for the rest. - start with your tooth - tomorrow on the phone to the dentist!

bubble99 · 02/01/2006 21:25

Hug from me too.

I hope 2006 is better for you, Oops.

X

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santagotstuckOOPSthechimney · 02/01/2006 21:32

thanks everyone, it was just good to write it all down really, there is loads of other stuff going on in my head tonight. DH is out to give me a bit of head space....

i have made a couple of lists for the next few days, i need to vaccinate both my kids and sort out passports for us all ion case we need to go to amsterdam, to apply for child benefit etc,
i think just writing it down and not carrying it in my head is helping

anyway, i know some of you have had a rubbish time too, so get rid it here too if you like, New Year, New Stuff...

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TambaTheDragonSlayer · 02/01/2006 21:36

Can I unload the crap bits of 2005 too?

I had 2 miscarriages
Really difficult time with dh - thought we were going to split but we have worked through it and things are better than ever
Diagnosed with PTSD - but again have worked through it and 2006 is looking a hell of alot brighter!

Good Points -
We bought our first house!!
Dh was promoted at work

2006 is going to be a good year, i have worked through the problems i have had this year and am happier than I have been in a long time

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santagotstuckOOPSthechimney · 02/01/2006 21:45

i am glad you are feeling positive, Tamba.
I am feeling positive actaully,
I know i have alot to go through, but i am so thankful that my adopted mum looked after me, she was such a lovely woman. I am glad she didn't suffer too much and dies at home.
I love my little boys with all of my heart and DH and I are strong.

Hoepfully i will see my brother again, and he will not be in too much of a state when we finally find him. I had thought he was dead tbh so this is a step forwards

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Amanda1 · 02/01/2006 22:53

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spacecadet · 02/01/2006 23:03

can i unload too?
im glad to see the back of 2005.
i have 4 lovely children but lost a baby girl at 16 weeks in march,was diagnosed with a balance disorder then lost another baby in oct at 23 weeks.

dh has a new job in north wales starting in late jan and i will join him as soon as the house sells, better prospects and pay for him and it means that i get to move back to my family and where i come from.
heres to 2006.
i hope 2006 is a better year for you too oops.

Amanda1 · 02/01/2006 23:12

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spacecadet · 02/01/2006 23:19

oh no, amanda, i didnt realise, im so sorry, i hope 2006 brings happiness for you too.

Elf1981 · 02/01/2006 23:23

(I posted this on another thread but... here it goes)

My 2005 has gone like this:

Me finding out I was pregnant
Mum falling over and breaking her arm causing months of agony, ops and loss of mobility
Brother being diagnosed as having testicular cancer, op to remove and chemo
Sisters boyfriends brother dying of SADS
Dad being signed off work, put on beata blockers
My other sister having a car crash on holiday
My gran having a heart attack (survived)
My job going from something I loved and looked forward to going back to after maternity leave turning into a nightmare where I cried almost every night towards the end of my pregnancy.
Me being signed off work with high blood pressure (surprise!)
Mum having an op on her arm two days before my C-section so she missed the birth of her first grandchild.
Mum being signed off work with blood pressure of 140/150 (good lord), put on beata blockers and okay now

The only good thing is my daughter. She's now 12 weeks old and I love her to pieces. If I'd not had her and been looking forward to her, I swear the year would have sent me over the edge.

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santagotstuckOOPSthechimney · 02/01/2006 23:33

omg to you all, I hope that 2006 is a much much better year for us all

Amanda1, hi, hope you enjoyed the mag and stuff, I was thinking about you I do hope it wasn't too bad for you this Xmas. I am glad you found and old friend, they are often the best at times like this... don't give the ex another thought. sometimes stuff like the new year really helps to draw a line under stuff, i hope that you gain strength this year and find some worthwhile people.

Spacecadet, i was so sorry to hear about the scond baby, it must have been devastating. I remember you on the due in aug thread the first time round, it seems so long ago. I am so sad that it happened twice....i do hope you manage to start getting over it this year.

I have found that i can't dwell on stuff too much as the children keep me busy, not sure if this is a good or bad thing, but suspect it is actually quite healthy

elf, it sounds like you have had a year from hell too. I am glad your little one seems to help you recover from it all

ok, 2006 WILL be a better year for us all. I really do hope so

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santagotstuckOOPSthechimney · 02/01/2006 23:34

lol, i seem to have a stuff obsession here, i am just not very good at previewing and am pretty inarticulate at times.

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Amanda1 · 03/01/2006 08:21

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ontheupihope · 03/01/2006 12:23

I did a lot of sole searching over the festive period and have very much decided that the past remain the past as I have no control over that. What is done is done. But I have control over the future and that is what I am looking to. I closed a few chapters in my life on New Years Eve because they were dragging me down and taking a toll on my health and my families happiness. They can sit there but it is now time to let them get dusty and grow cobwebs.

To all who have been down and put down in 2005 a big warm {{{{{hug}}}}. I hope it will be better for all of us. We deserve it Lets move on together and put our best feet forward.

For the first time in many years I am glad to say that I am looking forward and not back.

slinkstah · 04/01/2006 00:43

my first ever post on the depressed thread!!
i guess im ready to admit that i am depressed.
2005 went like this-
got pg very happy
dp got a job after being made redundant
uni going well
felt unwell hospital fobbed me off 4 times
went into labour
had baby at 23 weeks
treated horribly by hospital on ward laughed at when waters broke and other stuff, cant even begin
uni ruined
moved house stress
mum rejects me a few times
arguments with dp although prob all my fault
still cant sleep things replay in head

hoping 2006 can be brighter, have decided to go to drs and say depressed.

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