Mum's cut me out again

[hellhasnofury]

I never learn really.

She has bi-polar as well as a personality disorder, she sees people as good (my siblings) or bad (me).

Dad had major surgery on Monday to remove a tumour and I can't get her to answer her phone to me. I have no idea how he is. Hospital won't tell me. Siblings have been 'forbidden' to speak to me.

Arse.

Sorry to hear this - families can indeed be very difficult and of course you're worried about your Dad. Could you possibly go in at visiting time, they will probably be able to reassure you even if not allowing visitors. Am assuming you've contacted other family members who might have news, but I feel sure that someone would have told you if your Dad had got worse.
Hope you have some good news soon, try not to worry.

Assuming that your siblings are adults, how come they listen to her when she tells them not to speak to you?

I'm going to go to the hospital this weekend, they're not local to me so I wouldn't get there in time for visiting with work commitments.

My siblings listen to her because...I din't know. One is very dependant on her, phones her countless times a day, almost seems to enjoy the whole situation. The other is an independent adult but has Asperger's syndrome so that affects his view on the world. No other relatives to contact. All dad's side are dead now. Mum cut her only sibling out of her life years ago and my grandparents on that side are dead too.

This situation hell must be awful for you. I really hope you get some good news about your dad soon. I take it by your title... this sort of thing happens frequent with your mum?

It hasn't happened for quite a while but yes through my childhood and early adulthood it was a regular thing. She didn't speak to me for 5 years after she threw me out at 17, she has such a stranglehold that dad and my siblings did the same.

I know it's different...but my siblings do the same to me. If one decides not to speak to me..due to silly squabble...they all follow suit...I can completely sympathise with you. I really hope your dad is ok.