Any alternative to Ad's???

[loulounz]

Cutting long story short - some will know my situation anyway! Going through really nasty divorce at the minute.

Have finally moved out of the home (maybe big mistake but can't take anymore!) and moved closer to family for long needed support.

Think I'm getting on and picking myself up and beginning my new life when wham xdh hits me with another sols letter saying he's taking me to court for something else and I just hit rock bottom again and feel completely and utterly like ending it all.

Have a real block about taking AD's (not helped by the fact he's said I'm depressed and unstable and I'm sure he'll use this against me in Court when applying for more access to his dd's!) - so can anyone please suggest an alternative?

Dr mentioned St Johns Wort - anyone have any advice on this?

I desperately need to get out of this deep dark hole I allow him to put me in every time I hear from him, for my own sanity, the sake of my dd's and for me to be able to stand up to the threatening bully in Court and get what I want instead of him winning all the time!

Please help.

If you do try St Johns wort and you take any other medication, check with your pharmacists that it doesn't affect them....I do for lots.

Also don't take it if you are epileptic, my mate did and had fits as a result (it is known to lower the seizure threashold)

St Johns wort is great stuff - as long as you are on nothing else as it can interfere with a lot of things (the pill being one of them). You can get it from Boots, and all the dosage instructions are on the pack.

It doesn't work for everyone, but I know a lot of people that it has worked for. Team it up with Chamomile tea to help keep things mellow (if you don't like the flavour you can always make it with a fruity teabag mixed in too).

Rescue remedy works well as an immediate anxiety attack type cure, but not as a steady AD.

there is always counselling.

try not to worry about the effects of anything you do now on the court case. the court will not hold treatment for depression against you.

Would counselling be an option? It may help you boost your confidence, and help you develop ways of coping.

Lou- i went through a shit divorce-my husband was a gambler(which also meant he was a liar too)
He even mentioned my PMT in the divorce papers.

My depression was immense put i refused medication.
The best thing for me was talk,talk,talk,and talk some more.We will all support you here.

All my solicitors letters eventually went on the fire.The only one i NEEDED to keep was the final one from court saying we were divorced.

It will get easier but only as time passes.I now have a completely new life and a dd and ds with dp

St Johns Wort can help some people.
If you want to scream,shout,cry,whatever do it,you will feel better.
I use to howl like a Wolf-the pain was so immense.

Look,I dont know all your circumstances.so sorry .

Thinking of you

If you are detrmined to try and avoid ads (which i understand - but NOBODY needs to know you are on anti-ds), I know this sounds simplistic, but regukar exercise is a very effective way to beat depression. I'm not just talking from personal experience, but I'm currently on mental health training and everyone on the course agreed. Works in many different ways - releasing 'good' hormones, building stamina, boosting immune system, self-esteem you name it. Doesn't have to be joining a gym, but it must be regular. Combine that with talking, counselling, MN, and finding some way of having a laugh and you will be unstoppable, girl! Best of luck x

When I feel low I find little simple routines to help you just get thru the day. You are going thru a major life changing event so give yourself time, you have a right to feel like this. You've already said you've found the strength to start building yourself back up at times and YOU WILL AGAIN.

Agree with exercise maybe you cud add some simple treats in just to give you little boosts - even if its just a magazine and coffee or doing your nails. Bit by bit remember.

Can't advise on technical side of divorce but hope it goes well and you are getting good advice - if you have people around you offering support take it 0 you would do the same for them wouldn't you.

Thank you all for the great advice - I now feel lifted just knowing there are other things to try and lift my mood. I really don't want to end up on Ad's if I can help it - don't even like taking paracetamol unless absolutely necessary! I would never knock anyone on them, it's just a personal thing.

New Year, New beginning ..... HAPPY NEW YEAR EVERYONE, let's hope it's better than the last!

And a happy new year to you Loulounz! Take it one day at a time, and if a day seems bad, try to find a little pocket of happiness for yourself x