If one more person says 'Chin Up' i may kill them!!!

[craftyknickers]

I am suffering with depression and anxiety and have been for two years.

I have just come out of the abusive relationship that caused it so I am on the road to recovery but still have my bad days.

My anxiety is the worst thing because of the physical symptoms that go with it.

Anyway...I confide in a friend about this and they know most of what I have been through. They know how ill I am and I have gone to them when I have been feeling suicidal.

They asked me today how I was and I said I was ok just couldnt sleep because my axiety was particulary bad.

They said 'Chin up!' now i know its not the end of the world but to me that is a bit insensative when they know how hard things can be for me!!

They didnt mean it in a bad way but I still kind of feel crap that they said it!!

I have no idea why I posted this, i just needed a rant!

Yes, I know what you mean. I think most people just don't know what to say so they trot out a stock phrase that is usually rubbish advice in reality. I have learnt to accept that 99.9% of people are very ignorant about mental and emotional health issues and will come out with such phrases. I know it's annoying and sometimes upsetting but there's nothing to be done about other peoples ignorance unfortunately.

So sorry you feel crap craftyknickers. I just think people struggle to know what to say for the best.

I am trying to support someone with very similar issues to you and regularly am embarrassed at my own Pollyanna-ish positivity but it is not easy to know the right thing to say when you are not suffering yourself