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Finally ask for help... told "you'll cope"

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Triggles · 31/07/2011 19:17

Finally worked up the nerve to say something about how stressed and upset I've been to the nurse practitioner at our surgery. What did she tell me? "you'll cope... you're strong... women always cope..."

sigh...

thanks....

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behappi · 01/08/2011 15:23

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madmouse · 01/08/2011 16:34

behappi has it occurred to you that EFT (which is not proven to help in the first place and which does nothing to solve deep rooted problems) is not the answer to everyone's problems? You've recommended it on an awful lot of threads in the space of a few minutes. Are you a practitioner wanting to find new clients?

SchrodingersMew · 01/08/2011 16:38

Triggles, I am so sorry for you. :( I'm really rather depressed at the moment too and have been trying to tell my DP for months. Even using the words "I'm depressed and need you to help me" while in floods of tears.

I've basically been getting ignored when I say it, he doesn't seem to think it's a big deal. Broke down to a Doctor the other day and they immediately referred me to the care team and told me how bad a state mentally they thought I was in.

Please don't let it put you off telling anyone else, there will be someone who will listen.

x

MadameOvary · 01/08/2011 16:46

Triggles, as others have said you need to go a bit easier on yourself. Just because you coped with a high stress job doesn't automatically mean you can cope with these current pressures. They push different buttons for a start. A job is something that, broadly speaking you can put in a box, get paid for, and offers structure and reward in the form of pay. Family and spouse OTOH are much more demanding emotionally IMHO.

natsyloo · 01/08/2011 22:33

I am inclined to agree with madmouse, behappi - just done a quick search and you seem to be overtly pushing your technique on a number of threads - as well as your blog.

It's great that you're happy and have found a way to deal with your emotions but please remember that a lot of mums on here are very vulnerable and it's important they're not 'sold' to.

behappi · 03/08/2011 23:33

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madmouse · 03/08/2011 23:53

behappi I may have become very damaged from the age of 7 onwards but I still have all my brain cells. To suggest that I can heal from all my childhood pain and anxiety and trauma by tapping on non-existent energy lines is insulting if nothing else. If EFT was real rather than a quack cure it would be widely used in psychiatric hospitals wouldn't it? And don't give me bull about it not being widely known. It is widely known enough, but most people don't believe in it. I have seen it done on others when I researched it (I have a friend with the same issues as myself and she had a phase of chasing after every quick fix and I tried to keep her out of trouble) and found the practitioner highly pushy and suggestive. Last thing vulnerable people need.

By the way I'm not against alternative healing. I use it myself, both massage and herbal medicine. But it is never more than symptomatic relief. If EFT helps you to feel some relief then great, but don't pretend it can sort out the sources of pain.

madmouse · 03/08/2011 23:54

oh and you wrote on more than 3 threads. Apparently it is also a miracle cure for dealing with a stressful c-section Hmm

teenyweenytadpole · 04/08/2011 15:20

Can I just add to those who have had difficulty getting counselling that I was told by my GP there was a very long waiting list but I got some via a local organisation that offers counselling on a pay what you can afford basis, they are a charity and you can self refer, you don't need a doctors referral. You can pay anything from nothing to a maximum of 35 pounds a session, depending on your income (it's not means tested, you say what you can afford to pay). I have had 50 mins counselling a week for the past few weeks for depression and it's been very helpful. I am also taking AD's but I would say that having both together is what has helped. Might be worth looking into whether there is anything like that in your area.

behappi · 04/08/2011 17:27

madmouse

you're wrong about EFT. You may have had a bad experience but the technique works wonders

thanks for great feedback. I did some great tapping today from all your bitching

good luck

madmouse · 04/08/2011 18:07

behappi grow up and pay for your advertising (seen your website)

madmouse · 04/08/2011 18:40

Triggles I'm sorry for hijacking your thread like this - it's ill mannered of me and I will refrain from further comments. Obviously whether or not you take Behappi's advice is none of my business.

LoveBeingAtHomeOnMyOwn · 04/08/2011 18:41

you're wrong about EFT. You may have had a bad experience but the technique works wonders

well that's me convienced then Hmm

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