Worried about dh

[Mistymoo]

My dh is away this week on a course. I was just speaking to him and he sounds so down. He suffered from depression last year at this time and was put on anti-depressants. He told me this evening that he thinks he may have to go back to the doctor.

I am worried but also think this is a positive step because at least he is talking about it and is seeing the signs this time.

Last time it took a lot to get him to admit there was a problem and he eventually told me by telling me he just wished he was dead. It was very difficult and I hope it won't all start again.

I'm not sure why I am posting - feel I just need to let my feelings known somehow.

Hiya mistymoo. Just wanted to let you know that I'm in exactly the same position with my dp. He was on ad's just over a year ago and over the last few weeks is getting increasingly depressed again. He's also told me he'd be better off dead

Like you say - it's good that he has come straight out and said that he feels he may have to go back to the doc - at least it's a sign that he's dealing with it better this time.

My MIL heard that drepression is caused by a chemical inbalance and heard of a supplement that could be taken.

She is going to look for it tomorrow when she goes into town shopping. My dh doesn't know that I speak to his mum about it but I needed to speak to someone and she has to deal with her dh who also seems to suffer but has never had treatment. It seems to run in their family.

St John's Wort can work pretty well and you can get it in all the health shops and chemists. Might be worth a shot to try and pick him up a bit and catch it before it gets any worse.

I think my dp inherited his depression from his Mum - she's all over the place too.

It's difficult isn't it. I am a very emotional person and I think he feels I can't cope if he talks about his feelings.

I try to tell him that just because I get upset it doesn't mean I am not able to cope or help in some way.

Does your dp talk to you? Did he admit it himself?

it's good that he's not just sticking his head in the sand and has suggested of his own volition that he'll go back to the doctors. Hopefully once he's back home with you he will feel a bit better too.

TBH I wouldn't start on the SJW right now if your DH is likely to be seeing the doctor soon anyway, as it will make starting any anti-depressants at bit more complex (SJW and SSRIs are very similar drugs) so you have to make sure that you have the SJW out of your system before starting the SSRIs.

best of luck

Hiya - sorry I went to bed last night as dp hadn't come home from work so I thought it better to try and rest than panic! Didn't work!

When my dp first decided to go to the doctor it was because I pretty much made him do it. He didn't last very long on the AD's and took himself off them after a few months. He also had 6 weeks of counselling through the doctor which I think helped him a lot as she knew all the right questions to ask to get him to open up.

This time he hasn't mentioned it but I know he's worrying about work and money which is what kicked it all off last time

How's yours doing today - have you been able to speak to him?

Is he suffering from SAD, which comes on in the winter. If so a combination of light therapy and medication might help. Get him to go back to the doctor sooner rather than later

best of luck