Hi there, recently my sister for divorced from a non-abusive husband - basically he was alot older and they grew apart.
Recently she has started seeing a new man. She told me he has depression and he was on medication but is not anymore and he is mostly fine without it.
Its just something she said the other day. She was at my house playing with the children and he sent her a text saying he was feeing really down. She replied saying she had her hands full and would call him in 10 mins and then he texted her back saying she needs to step up, that he cant hold their relationship together. I was a little shocked at this, and I think she was, but didnt want to say anything so I left it.
Yesterday she phoned me and was very angry. It turns out the day of the text, after she had replied and talked to him on the phone etc he posted on a forum and she managed to find the post (yes I know, if you look for bad stuff you are gonna find it) but anyway. It said on there that he was feeling down and then went on to list ALL of her bad points, some wild;y exagorrated for example:
"she wants to get drunk at every moment" when to be fair, most of us to have a glass of wine after the children go to bed, and its been months since she's been out at night. He also went on to say he had taken her away for the weekend (he hasnt, she paid more than half) and is constantly supporting her with her life - isnt that what partners do?
Not surpriging all the replies on this website has advised him to finish with her.
Basically, it seems to be that when he is depressed, he thinks that every little thing that goes wrong is down to her. Even things she has nothing to do with.
I asked her if she really wanted this to be her new man and her new life and she says that when its good its absolutely brilliant.
How best do you think I can support her? She seems very happy since being in this relationship, what support does she need to give her new boyfriend in order to make it work?