Hi, since october last year iv been citlopram for depression and anxiety problems and also been taking them through my pregnancy(advised by doctor) and i seem to have been doing very well while iv been on them, but lately as the birth of our child grows nearer, my anxiety levels have been creeping up again.
what is bothering me is that im scared that when our child comes it could spark off new arguments between me and my mum, shes the reason why iv been on them in the 1st place, thinking that she can just take over with any thing, including how i raise my children, shes already got her claws into my daughter but i dont want her getting her claws into our son.
Basically the story goes: i became a single parent wen my daughter was just 8 months old, i moved back to my mums, which was temporary, a year later i meet a wonderfull man, who made it clear that i was the girl of his dreams and that he wanted to be a family with my daughter, my mum, who has had 2 kids with 2 different dads and 2 divorces under her belt, makes it clear that she doesnt think that my partner is the right man for me and tries everything to split us up, i decide that my daughter has to come first so after 6 months and a very long chat, me and my partner make the move to move in together, a month later everything goes through and we get the green light.
How ever wen i tell my mum this, she flips, batters me infront of my daughter and i have no choice but to there and then, pack mine n my daughters things and to just get out.
After all that happened, i didnt speak to my mum for 6 months and only started speaking again under the wish of my grandma, who was very ill at the time but part of me still doesnt trust her and is still very warey of her.
i dont no wat to do, im sooo stuck, my partner hates my mum because of what she put me thru since the birth of my daughter, since we have been together and since we bought a house together, my partner already finds it hard because hes not my daughters dad but is as good as, seeing he has been in her life since she was 18 months old and is now 3, my mum is a very manipulative, twisted and bitter person, hence why my partner doesnt like the person that she is.
i just dont want her to get in the way, as awful as that sounds, she needs to realise she is just the grandparent, not the mother, she tried taking over with my daughter and still does, undermining my skills as a parent, making it absolutly frustrating for my self and my partner to be good parents.
She has also started showing her true colours again, which is why iv started to become warey of lettin her in to our sons life, its been a year since i left her house and she has never made an effort to apologise to myself or my partner about her behaviour towards us.
im also very sorry that this has become a long thread but i thought it was better to explain properly rather than just giving out the light details