So depressed

[Hther]

I find it so hard being a single mum with no friends of family but now i'm so fed up of my ex being such an a* that i can't look after myself let alone the children. I am completely drained, I am trying so hard to pull myself together but all i can do is cry

I know the feeling Hther, im a single parent looking after my autistic son, ive lost contact with all my freinds as well and dont bother with my family anymore as they cant handle my sons disability, you sound as though you could be depressed, how old are your children, ( not being nosy, just wondered if it could be linked to PND ) have you been to see your GP to tell him/her how you feel, you may need some medication or counselling to get you back on track so you can handle your arse of an x, you dont have to feel like this but the first step of going to the GP is always the hardest, im on ADs and feel much better now but it took me a lot of years of suffering before i went to the GP, looking back i only wish id done it sooner.

Well you need to talk to someone, whether it's going to a mother-type group, or seeking counselling. I'm no expert with depression, but I know what single parenting is like, I think adult company and talking through how you feel with someone is the way forward.

Also don't beat yourself up about it, it is hard and it is absolutely normaly to sometimes be reduced to an exhausted wreck. It's just that you need to be able to pull yourself up out of that state too.

I'm sure someone else will be able to advise more effectively.

Dont mean to be rude Hellopiggy but if it was that simple to be able to pull yourself out of it then dont you think people feeling low and depressed would be doing just that, this is possibly the worst thing you could say to someone who could be suffering from depression, its pretty obvious you havnt got the slightest clue about depression or how lost and dibilitating this illness can make you feel.

Hther - have you made an appointment with your GP or health visitor? You really need to talk it all through with someone to see how they can help you. Like Bittersweet says I know its really hard to make that first step to making the appointment but it really sounds like you need the support.
Hope you feel much better soon

Bittersweet, the OP doesn't state in her post that she is in fact depressed. All she says is that she is finding it hard, is feeling drained and is crying a lot.

I never claimed to know anything about depression, and I stated that to be the case. So please read posts properly bittersweet, before commenting inappropriately. I was trying to help - offering what advice I could from my experiences of feeling the same way. I have felt very very low at times and have cried a lot, but I am not depressed! I don't even know why I bothered - I thought forums like this were a place for people to share experiences. Apparently not.

Hther, I hope you do seek advice, from a professional if you need it, and find your feet again.

I did read your post Hellopiggy and having suffered from depression myself thats why i stated that telling someone with possible depression to pull themselves out of that state is possibly the worst thing you can say, the OP stated that she had no freinds or family so taking that into consideration that is why i suggested she go to her GP.

Look, that wasn't what I meant at all by that comment - I'm not naive enough to think depression can be shaken off like that.

My meaning was that there needs to be times when you can cope, you can't feel like that all day every day. By saying "pulling yourself out of it" I didn't mean just by will power alone, but by doing whatever it takes - medication in some cases, or professional counselling, but an afternoon with friends in other cases.

I apologise for this being misunderstood, but it's impossible to know from a post whether someone is depressed or not. I was trying to reassure the OP that she shouldn't be feeling that way all the time.

since the topic head said so depressed i assumed that it what the OP wanted advice about.