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Alcoholic and depressed mother

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sunshineandshowers · 12/05/2011 09:22

Hi all,

I am posting about my mum, who has major depression and is a v bed alcoholic. the whole family are at a loss as to what to do.

Currently she has been drinking for 3-4 weeks. V badly for 2 weeks. She barely leaves her bedroom, is incontinent, has bad eyes, ears, chest, can barely walk, is not eating, and just repeats the same stuff over and over. She drinks all day and night and is barely sleeping. Unfortunately my dad has got into a bad situation of buying it for her. We all warned him about this, but she can be quite overbearing. He is willing to stop, but we are not sure if this would be dangerous now.

She started drinking about 15 months ago after a friend and friends daughter died, went into rehab/detox centre (NHS) in dec and was sober for about 3 months.

She had cancer (all gone) 6 years ago, so her insides are not the best anyway.

Unfortunately she did not change her meds in the intvening period when she was sober, we realise she should have done this.

She refuses to ring the doctor/ leave the house. I know the rehab centre will have a waiting list. My dad is seeing the GP today to see what can be done.

She keeps talking about dying and saying she loves us all and not to feel guilty if anything happens. She says she is drinking to numb the pain (physical (from her operation - although she managed for 5 years) and mental). She says the all the years have caught up with her. It's like she cannot see anyway out, except death. She is literally comitting suicide and I fear something bad will happen soon.

Thanks anyone for reading and hopefully someone will have some advice x

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cestlavielife · 12/05/2011 10:25

all you can do is try and get GP and mental health services to visit her at home and take it from there.

she can be secitoned if deemed to be risk to herself or others but criteria are quite high and she might not met them. but - getting people in to see her and assess is first step.

sunshineandshowers · 12/05/2011 10:55

Thanks cestlavielife.

Will GP contcat mental health services or would I? So GP still first pot of call.

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cestlavielife · 12/05/2011 11:49

GP first port of call - if you cant get her to visit GP then ask for a house call.

sunshineandshowers · 12/05/2011 14:14

thanks.

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FranTan · 14/05/2011 21:20

Hi there,

Have you thought of contacting AlAnon? It's the sister fellowship of AA, especially for loved ones of alcoholics? I think you would find a lot of excellent support there.

www.al-anonuk.org.uk/

Fran x

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