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Help I have no idea what to do.

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LilQueenie · 06/05/2011 19:07

Not really sure what to do. I cant stop crying. been feeling dizzy and tired for the last week, apparantly have anaemia too. I felt depression sinking in for the last few days. I mentioned feeling this to DP. Im 32 weeks pregnant and since 8 weeks Ive been at his house because of extreme morning sickness. Since then Ive had to put up with his brother who I no longer speak to and who has made life difficult. DP keeps nagging at me over the same issues. Its wearing me down. Each morning i get up (while he sleeps till later) and go home to shower then try to tackle the house which is sooo overwhelming right now. He rarely comes down and when he does I sort of feel resentful because he sits on the laptop all day and spends very little time with me. Ive told him how I feel. I really dont want to go back right now. We have different outlooks on life and how we live. Is this depression or just hormones? He has told me tonight that I just need toget on with it because thats what people do! Then he was all nice and said if I went up he would giveme a hug. I told him its not making it go away. he said sorry. Advice please. Ive wanted to speak to someone for ages but there is noone. I have only just been given a midwife appointment next week. Antenatal apps took down details from me but no number if I needed to speak to anyone. I feel alone and let down.

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LilQueenie · 06/05/2011 19:20

bump sorry

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sailorsgal · 06/05/2011 19:36

I think you should speak to someone before next week. You could ring the maternity unit at your local hospital and speak to someone, they usually have a drop in service most days.

You don't just "need to get on with it", saying that is not helpful but maybe his intentions are well meant. It could be your hormones but also could be depression.

Hope you are ok.

MittzyTheMinx · 06/05/2011 19:37

I would push for someone to talk to lovey. Sad

You sound so sad. Could you make an appointment at the docs at all?
I presume you have no where else to 'be' right now?

Without being harsh, it sounds like DP could be much more supportive, but apart from talking I am not sure what to advise. I am sorry, I am so tired and want to be more helpful but didn't want to not reply.

Keep posting, someone usually pops in with some sterling MN advice x

LilQueenie · 06/05/2011 20:22

Thank you for the replys. I did want to contact the maternity unit but they have given me absolutely no number to contact anyone despite having down on file that I may encounter problems like this and need to speak to them.

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LilQueenie · 06/05/2011 20:42

I think I want to leave. I dont want him to be alone but I cant put up with how I feel every single day. I really dont want to hurt him.

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sailorsgal · 06/05/2011 21:56

You have to put yourself and the baby first.

Ring the maternity unit as soon as you can.
Take care. x

Selks · 06/05/2011 22:03

Your unhappiness might well be about your relationship/situation, if you are saying that you want to leave.
As said above, you need to put your needs and the baby's needs first now. Think long term.....if you want to split then there is no point staying together for the sake of his feelings.
Try talking to friends and your family, if they are supportive, and the maternity unit.

froggystepmum · 06/05/2011 22:13

As a GP I think you should see a GP asap. They can provide support, advice, and fast track access to whatever help you might need. And as I have also suffered from depression, I know a bit about how you feel and it's RUBBISH. so PLEASE get help soon , even if that means calling the on call dr tomorrow or on call midwife team. Thats what they are there for. It doesnt have to be horrible.

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