Just started taking AD's feeling lost

[Mummybear72]

I've often felt depressed during my teenage and adult life, but have never thought it was serious enough to need treatment, despite fantasing about it many times. However at the doctors last week, I broke down and was prescibed AD's (prozac) straight away, which suggests I have it worse than I thought.

I just feel lost and lonely right now, I have always struggled to make friends and maintain friendships, but thought that I had turned a corner. I've made a real effort to get out to things nd meet people, but to be honest I find it really difficult and can't face it right now. I don't know which of my pre-baby friends would be bothered, I feel so cut off from that life.... I do not have family I can speak to. My partner is sympathetic but not a talkative type and he has many commitments so I am oftenon my own at weekends as well as in the week. I just feel I want to talk to someone about it but lack the courage/means to do it....

Really hope the AD's will help - anyone can reassure me they might?

The ADs will help mummybear but they will take a bout 3 weeks to kick in, if you dont feel better within around 6 weeks then you might need to try a different AD as it might not suit you or you might need a higher dose so hang on in there.
Once you start to feel better you will feel more like getting out and about and meeting people.
Have any of your pre baby freinds got children, once you feel better you could maybe arrange a playdate.
Depression is shit, ive suffered on and off since my child hood but the ADs im on now ( mirtazapine ) have helped me a lot.

Hi,

just joined Mumsnet and was trawling through the posts when I saw yours - just wanted to send you a big hug - I've had times when I've felt lonely, isolated etc etc even with trying to keep in touch with ante-natal ladies etc (actually have sometimes felt worse when having been out with them!) Its a stressful time and hormones don't help so give yourself a break when you're feeling rubbish and don't put yourself under any more pressure to be "normal" than you already are - hope that makes sense??

I am in exactly the same boat as you. Started on citalopram nearly three weeks ago. The initial anxiety and head fog side effects were pretty grim but hang on in there...it lifts, your mood starts to lighten and I can honestly say that for the first time in a long time I feel calm and black thoughts are starting to fade. You've made an important and brave step towards creating a happier future for yourself - be proud and when don't be afraid to let people know you need looking out for especially until the ads start to help. LOads of love to you XXXX

Hi mummybear, you're not alone, you're really not. Taking ADs isn't a step back at all, you've made a brave and important move and although it feels scary at the moment, it will improve.

Being a mum is pretty huge as changes go and it can take a while for us to get our heads round it - it's exhausting to boot. I felt a dreadful loss of identity which just made me feel desolate and so confused but, with time and treatment, things do change.

Give yourself time, try and go out if possible to be with other people. I've set up a PND support group for mums in my area because I feel so passionate about the lack of support for vulnerable mums. Do some research and see if there are any in your area.

Look after yourself, sending big hugs xxx