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Mental health

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Don't want to go to the GP I can't see the point, will it run its course?

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Fiddledee · 01/05/2011 18:25

I'm stuggling with a very bad bout of depression its been going on since christmas. not the first time, but definitely the worst and longest episode in my life, was better for a month but its hit me again. DH wants me to go to the GP - I will not take ADs I think the depression will run its course. It is crippling at times but am just about managing. GP will recommened CBT or drugs. Can't get to a psychologist/counsellor as have no childcare for the kids until September for during the day and DH back late most evenings.

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mumblechum1 · 01/05/2011 18:29

Why won't you take ADs if the GP recommends them?

madmouse · 01/05/2011 18:35

You are so depressed that you are neglecting yourself - don't let it become a vicious circle and do what your partner says. And yes, ADs will help you feel less depressed and counselling will help too. And I feel sure that you can find a fellow mum/friend/neighbour who will have dc for 1 lousy hour a week while you have counselling. Plus the waiting list may take you well into the summer anyway.

Pixielovescake · 01/05/2011 19:00

Fiddledee , you are me six months ago. Was depressed couldnt shake it. Same as you on and off my whole life. didnt want any drug , wouldnt /didnt want therapy etc.
Its so hard. I understand if you dont want to go down the no drugs route.I didnt as they were forced on me as a child and i swore id never touch them again. No one can make you do anything you dont want to , thats the main thing to keep in mind.
However i just want to tell you that after 8 years of not taking anything i decided to ive it a try. Not sure why really , think i was tired of feeling like this , sick of it keep coming back or maybe i realised that other people werent like me , it wasnt normal to have to feel so bad all the time. That the waiting for it to get better/ease off shoulnt have to keep happening.
Anyway i did go down to my GPs and asked about maybe just maybe trying some ADs. And for what its worth i feel 100% better (and i mean that , ive been like this since i was 12) and in all honesty i didnt even know it was possible to feel this well normal. It was a revalation to me that other people really feel like i do now their whole lives. Normal. Im going to be on them for the rest of my life but it may be different for you.
Im not going to tell you what you should do , just something for you to think about. Hope this helps.

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Fiddledee · 01/05/2011 21:50

Pixie have any side effects? Thats what worries me as I have had very bad side effects from many pharma drugs for past illnesses. Most drugs I've taken have worse my insomnia or else made me feel doped up. I once took a drug for morning sickness which I think is also an AD - I had to stop taking it as I could not sleep at all on them. I need to be able to drive each day (no public transport) and function. I don't want to feel doped up.

Sorry madhouse but I don't have anybody I could regularly take my kids an hour a week - amazing but true.

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Pixielovescake · 01/05/2011 23:14

Well. There are side effect as with all drugs. In my case i do and always have responded very well to prozac , with a difference in days/weeks rather than months with minimal side effects.
Ive personally not felt at all "druged" although ive mentioned on another thread that my memory seems worse but its never been good so im not 100% if it is the prozac or not. It may just be increasin my foretfulness rather than causing it.
I actually slept much better after a few weeks as i think it can make you a bit sleepy and certainlly more relaxed. I dont drive atm (no car) but i would have if id had my car as i didnt feel affected in that way at all.
However that said everyone is different. One of the side effects i do get seems to be affecting erm sexual enjoyment which ive not brought up with my GP yet but i may do in the future.
It miht be worth a try , i think there will be a sort of trial period where your GP can judge (or you can) if it works for you an if you do have side effects and if so what can be done about them.

cestlavielife · 02/05/2011 00:18

how old are DC?
i think if DH is asking you to seek help then ask him to go with you to GP.

and ask him to either sit the DC while you get therapy or help you find someone who can babysit.

if you totally crash - well what will he do then? who will take care of DC? any friends/family around at all?

and is the fact you on your own for long hours while H away working (presumably) maybe contributing in some way? reach out to your H and discuss some practical solutions to childcare issue.

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