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Mental health

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I need help right now please

13 replies

queencat · 30/04/2011 23:15

Quick history. Partner of six years walked out on me and kids last year. He now has new girlfriend.

I am on anti depressants as I think
I have had a breakdown.

It's getting worse I'm becoming a nervous wreck I think constantly about killing myself or self harming (I started doing this after we split).

I'm not getting better. It's been a year next month and it fills my head every second of the day.

Please help me I don't know where to turn too. I'm scaring myself.

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Butterpiecrimearea · 30/04/2011 23:16

Do you think you might be in danger right now?

origamirose · 30/04/2011 23:19

Try calling samaritans - UK: 08457 90 90 90
It might work for you. I called them about 15 years ago, it marked the starting point of my recovery.

orangehead · 30/04/2011 23:21

please ring the samartians

Oakmaiden · 30/04/2011 23:21

How long have you been on your anti depressants?

Are your thoughts of harming yourself immediate (are you considering it now) or just general (you think about it a lot, but have no plans for the moment)?

Butterpiecrimearea · 30/04/2011 23:25

Have you been given the number for your local crisis team? For some reason they don't always give it out. If so, ring them.

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queencat · 30/04/2011 23:43

I've been on them since last may when he went. I just feel so overwhelmed by sadness and grief. I keep thinking well if I'm dead then I don't have to feel like this anymore. Then I think about my children. It's like a have a little voice in my head just telling me to do it.

I don't want to feel like this anymore. My imagination runs riot. What if he marries her or if she gets pregnant? This person has treated me so badly but I just wish he would feel something for me.

I feel utterly pathetic and worthless god knows there are people worse off than me.

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Butterpiecrimearea · 30/04/2011 23:46

Ring samaritans - it's not that we don't want to talk to you, but they know more than us. They can talk to you in confidence and they might help you to get your thoughts straight.

Pancakeflipper · 30/04/2011 23:55

Please speak to someone, the SAMs will listen.
And on Tuesday please go and see your GP. Have you got a nice GP who listens? Hope so. And ask about therapy. I think you may need to go through the ins and outs of this relationship and then you can move on being a happier you.

Remember this is not the true you. It's the illness. Like a cold makes you sneeze - well depression/stress/anxiety mess up your mind. It can be mended, but you do need to speak to someone to get the help. Too many people wander around saying "Oh I am fine". When they are not.

Your children love you. And you do have a future.

And don't disappear from us. People here in the mental health section care, they have big shoulders to lean on.

Oakmaiden · 30/04/2011 23:57

Depression isn't rational. It doesn't matter how badly off you are or are not compared to other people, what matters is how you feel and how you are going to cope with it.

You do need to talk to someone, and I think you need to do it now. You sound very unhappy.

You need to keep thinking of those children who NEED you and who NEED to know that you think they are important enough to live for.

And you need to speak to someone. Phone the Samaritans. Phone a family member or friend who can help you. Do these things now.

And make an appointment to speak to your GP about how you are feeling and how he/she can help you.

You can do this.

philnteds · 01/05/2011 22:50

Did you get help Queencat? Did you talk to anyone? Please let us know.

Raspberry67 · 25/05/2011 17:39

My 18yr old selfharms and says she wants to kill herself most days. she is on antidressants for bi-polar sufferers. she is agressive verbally to me and her younger sister. she drinks alot and sleeps most part of the day or at least stays in bed til the afternoon. I dont know how to communicate to her anymore as it mostly ends up in an arguement. I have said I would go to the gp to see about counciling but she wont go. i am at my whits end and dont know what to do. She blames me for how she is (her dad and i split up when she was 2). she has no respect for me or her dad. it upsets me so much when i see her scars on her and just recently she has harmed herself in a different place. Just need someone to talk to about it really i suppose

madmouse · 25/05/2011 18:23

raspberry you won't get support by posting on an old thread like this - it is best to start your own thread and put in the title what you need support with ie something about your 18yo self harming and being very depressed x

bittersweetvictory · 25/05/2011 18:51

I was just going to say the same thing as madmouse you should start a new thread, if you are in England or wales this site might help.

www.mind.org.uk/

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