Wanting baby no.3 but DH says no.........

[CarlyP]

feel so low about this. wanted it for over a yr, but DH keeps putting it off. now says poss in a few months, but i dont see the diff a few months would make. have 2 boys of 11mth and 22mth whom we adore and i was told i poss would not be able to conceive naturally, so we have been blessed, but i just want to add to it. he says he is scared though. any advice?

thanks

cx

Good advice to get some counselling - it should be a JOINT DECISION whatever you both decide.

Best of luck - have to leave for school now.

RW
xxx

Thank you to you both.

Cxxxxxxx

'i know that i am not being totally rational as what diff does a few months make, but i just feel this is what he has done before and moved the goal posts. and what diff does a few motnhs make either way.'

A LOT in terms of hormones settling down, in particular if you are also getting counselling.

I understand your concerns regarding your endo but letting it go a few months whilst you and your husband get some much needed counselling certainly isn't the same as delaying treatment for agressive cancer or some other disease that could result in death or serious threat to ones survival if not aggressively approached immediately.

PLEASE, PLEASE seek some help. Your relationship is only becoming further strained by putting pressure on what sounds to be a stable, loving relationship.

It also sounds like you've got a lot of anxiety. This can't be good for you or your two precious little boys.

i totally agree with what you are saying and have suggested counselling to my DH before as i feel we both have issues etc and we could be happier. but he said he didnt want to go down that route.

thank you for all your help. i will let you know what WE decide!

Thank you

cx

then go down it yourself. you don't have to go as a couple and it sounds as if you may benefit as you have traumatic pregnancies and births.

shame my husband never saw it like that, or anyone in my family........!!! 'pull your socks up and be grateful' was about what i got!