Why does my dh hold it against me, having depression?

[vickylou2004]

Anytime I have beef with him it's-'Oh go and sort your tablets out' or 'have you had a happy pill today?'

One example was today, following an ongoing problem which is clearly HIS fault-fact!

In fact I must add that I am feeling fab, I've been cutting my tabs in half for a week and have noticed no difference, although not sure there should be a noticable difference from 10-5 mg??

he sounds like a real catch

Its just as well that hes not my DH or id have him out the door with my boot up his arse, i hate the term "happy pill" and as far as im concerned any one who calls them that is an ignorant shit, its obvious hes never been depressed but im sure karma will get him somehow.

Criticising DH is the instant reaction, isn't it? Although his insensitivity clearly isn't helpful, I'd be interested to hear some practical thoughts about how to support a partner with depression/stress. Because my DP, having been on various anti-depressants for around 2 years, is hell to live with and I'm struggling to reconcile why I should put up with his depression, resentment and anger (usually directed at me personally, and our two small children).

I'm sorry, but living with someone with depression can be a lonely, isolating place. That's where I'm at, right now. Tell me what he should do to help?

Well firstly, educate himself/allow himself to be educated on depression and medications (i.e. snarky comments about happy pills NOT the way to go).
Secondly, take some responsibility for HIS part in the relationship. Does he think men with non depressed wives never argue or disagree? Does he think they can behave any way they want and their lovely, permanently happy wives just go along with it? Er, no!
Not being depressed does not, funnily enough, give you any kind of moral high ground, though it must be nice to feel that way.

OTOH Eviz, no of course you/children shouldn't suffer because of it. Is your DH recieving treatment other than medication? As it's generally accepted that medication is most effective when combined with some sort of talking therapy. Is his GP/psychiatrist on the ball with trying different meds/dosages? There's not point taking medications that are not working.
Does your DH know how you feel? Can you talk about it? If not have you considered couples counselling? Have you accessed any sort of support for yourself?
MIND

Eviz

I am actually coming off anti-depressants, been on them for a long time and i am not 'depressed' anymore. Had no withdrawal effects and feeling fabulous so dh has no reason to say these things! It's like he holds a grudge.

Would you be happy being on anti-depressants and your partner ridiculing your situation?

No. My DH is fantastic and supportive and although I recognise it can be hard having a partner with depression, it sounds like you have it under control and are probably no more difficult to live with than the next person. Everyone deserves better than this.

Thanks fot the comment EveryonesJealousOfGingers :)