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I was abused - should I go to the police?

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ManicPanic · 02/04/2011 16:00

Abused as a child - 'historic' child abuse as they call it. I had a breakdown several months ago and I realised this was a contributing factor. Thought about going to the police then, my mental health worker suggested that I wait until I felt stronger (I was pretty suicidal) and I agreed.

I know he has access to children (his own grandchildren!) and as he is not an old man, he is still very much a threat imo. I know he has abused 1 other girl around the same time as he did me, I have my suspicions about another girl, and I will be very surprised if we are the only ones. His behaviour is still weird tbh from what I know and I don't think he will have changed at all.

So other children are at risk and it is 20 years ago and I have done nothing. I feel awful. I should be doing something.

I know the police will take him to the station to discuss the allegations but then what? He was 11 / 12 when he committed the crimes I am aware of. I have no witnesses, I am an ex-drug addict with mental health ishoos and holes in my memory (because of what he did to me). I don't feel that putting myself through a court case will be helpful. I don't think I will 'win.' But there has to be some consequence, and some way to at least 'point him out' and not let this dirty secret fester. I know what he is, others should too.

Any ideas or advice would be brilliant, and well done for reading this far. Sorry if this has upset anyone, I tried to make the title pretty descriptive so people wouldn't click if they would find it upsetting.

OP posts:
Pagwatch · 03/04/2011 14:31

You are very gracious manic in the face of my being a total numpty'

Good luck with the job and your steps towards recovery Smile

ManicPanic · 03/04/2011 15:41
Grin

If I felt I couldn't take it, I honestly wouldn't have posted. But I am secure enough in myself to defend myself if I have to

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aprilc · 02/09/2011 20:35

How did this turn out? Are you still undecided?

I found this thread because I was Googling to try and resolve a similar situation. I was groomed and seduced by a teacher at my school when I was just 14 and I know that I was not the first or last. I feel like I know the 'right' thing to do, report him now, twenty years later, even though he is no longer teaching. But it's so difficult. I feel like a coward. I feel selfish. And after carrying it around all these years, never far from my thoughts, I just need closure. But I lack the nerve.

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