Counsellors.

[FourFortyFour]

I was told today I need counselling and by getting help for myself I can help one of my children who needs extra support. How on Earth do I find a counsellor who is right for me? I have had counselling before from 3 different people ranging from 1 session to 1 years worth and still not straight.

If you have had counselling in the past FFF and it doesnt help them maybe you need to try something else, not everyone responds to counselling so it may not make a difference who your counseller is, it may just not be the right road for you, have you discussed other options with your GP.

I haven't. Only just had this on my mind since I was told it might help. What other options are there?

Who told you it might help FFF ? could you perhaps give us a little bit more info as im sure someone on here will be able to give you some advice.

You could look into psychotherapy, or something like CBT? I have never found counselling much help either. I think counselling is intended to be a safe space to talk, which is probably most helpful for people who don't talk about things because they feel they shouldn't or they don't want to burden others.

Psychotherapy is slightly different in that the therapist will ask you questions about things, pick up on things you say and explore those etc, rather than just the immediate issues, "So how has your week been? How do you feel about that?" etc and so focus more on a root cause which might be something that happened in your childhood, even. And CBT is about changing destructive thought patterns and processes.

A member of staff at school said it.

She feels me being the way I am is affecting my son. We are both emotional. She feels I have things I need to deal with.

Is she a medical professional ?
is she qualified to tell you this or is it just her opinion ?
has anyone else said this ?
I dont know your situation but being emotional on its own is hardly a basis for counselling unless its affecting you and your DS in other ways but even then i would have thought that it would be up to your GP to decide whether you need counselling and not some staff member, unless they are qualified to do so but if they are not then they have no right to tell you this.

She is head of infants so no idea if medically qualified. A lot of people have told me I need counselling, and I have had some but it hasn't been the right type/person as they haven't got me. I have had a very complex upbringing and they don't know how to help me. One even told me I was annoying her.

I have only gone and done it. I have emailed and I have said I would like to meet her. Yikes. It is going to cost £600. Double yikes.

£600 for what?
Check out the BACP website for counsellors in your area, tells you a bit about them too. Although there will be a bit of a waiting list, your GP should be able to refer you for free counselling.

Tbh it may be more beneficial for you to look at ways of increasing self esteem for you and your child. How do you feel about you? Do you like you? What are your good points? If any of those questions make you uncomfortable then self esteem is the way to go!

I have had my quota of free counselling. The lady I am planning on seeing has suggested hypnoanalysis and counselling.