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I need a nest.......

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calvemjoe · 25/10/2005 13:48

8 mnths ago my dh and I were evicted from our rented house, with our 11 mnth old ds, as the landlord had decided to sell and wanted the property empty. We decided that we didn't want to be in the same situation again and moved in with my parents whilst we looked for a property to buy. However we still haven't found a house and I feel like a little bit of me dies every day that I am stuck without a place to call home. I have become the unpaid servant to my parents and my dh stays longer and longer at work because he knows what it is that he has to come home to. I am expected to do all of the cooking and cleaning (I even get lists left for me) even over the weekend when I am at work. I know that as a mother at home monday to friday I am responsible for looking after my dh and ds's needs but to clean up after 2 fully grown adults aswell makes me feel worthless. My parents also have 2 very hairy dogs that my ds and dh are allergic to so hoovering on a daily basis is essential, as well a cleaning up after them, but I am the only one who does it and i wouldn't need to hoover every day if I didn't live in this goddamn house. I know I sound like I am ungrateful and that i should just get on with my life, but other than my ds and dh I just feel as though I have nothing. no place to call home, nowhere that I can be me and relax and do as I please. I feel so sad. There has been an ache in my chest since I moved here that won't go away and I don't know how much more of it i can take.

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doormat · 25/10/2005 13:50

calvemjoe cant you find another rented property until you find a house you like

CountessDracula · 25/10/2005 13:51

Can you not rent again while you are looking? Even if it is just a small place at least it would be your own.

calvemjoe · 25/10/2005 13:56

we're looking but my dh is convinced that our dream house is just around the corner and thinks it will be a waste of money. I can't make him understand that the money is really not worth it. i'd rather be broke in our own house

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doormat · 25/10/2005 18:15

cant blame you sweetie for wanting to get out
but just keep pestering your dh
xxx

calvemjoe · 26/10/2005 12:52

Thanks doormat xx

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doormat · 26/10/2005 12:53

how are you today

calvemjoe · 26/10/2005 20:18

I just feel sad. I'm without a car aswell and my parents house is in the middle of nowhere with no public transport. I feel so trapped.

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kiera · 18/11/2005 18:18

Hi calvemjoe, I live near you and tried to email you but mumsnet said I can't. Do contact me if you'd like to meet up (see "contact another talker" at the top of the page).

((Hugs))

Abi

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