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Depressed DH and Boss

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everyonebutme · 14/03/2011 15:05

Seems I'm surrounded by depressed people and don't know how to help. Today my boss broke down in tears in front of me. I've told him he needs to see a doctor as it's not the first time. Am hoping he'll get some help and anti-depressants to help him. It seems he only wants to talk to me but I don't feel qualified enough to help.

DH also very depressed and it's affecting our relationship. He's already on anti-depressants. He does now talk to me but we've had some serious relationship issues recently and it seems to me that everything's all about him and I can't talk about the way I feel and what's recently happened. He hurt me very badly (not physically) and I want him to show some remorse and think about how I must be feeling but all I get is him talking about how depressed he is and how he feels. Does this sound selfish? What should I do? I just feel I'm surrounded by moody miserable people (and I know you can't help depression) and it's bringing me down.

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everyonebutme · 14/03/2011 17:41

Sorry just feel that I could do with some support myself and advice on how to help others. Feel like everyone's relying on me at the moment (or maybe I'm the cause of it).

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bittersweetvictory · 14/03/2011 19:13

If your DH is still depressed despite being on ADs then he should really be going back to see his GP as they are clearly not working and he may need a higher dose or a different type.
If his depression is severe he will not be capable at the moment to deal with serious relationship issues and perhaps his depression is worse at the moment due to the fact he hurt you badly.
If there are a lot of underlying issues then perhaps councelling will help your DH.
From my own experience of depression ( im fine at the moment but tomorrow is another day ) i would say you have to get your husband well before he can cope with any serious issues and be able to emotionally give you the support you need from him.

everyonebutme · 14/03/2011 19:37

Actually he's going back to GP this week. I'm just finding everything very hard at the moment. Thanks for your reply though.

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