please help me stay sane, (ish)

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Have mental health problems have posted about before under my normal posting name but am now in my parents house lookingafter my mother who is the cause of my mental health issues.
She was ok yesterday and not so viscious as normal but she is back on form today and I feel like I need to run for the hills and I can't.

She has had an operation and is unable to look after herself at the moment and my siblings and I have divided up the time so that none of us have to bee here for too long but really.

I don't know what I want from this post but this is my way of shouting from the roof tops
I am a good and lovely person, and that is why I am dong your fucking ironing and washing your hair and making you food and cleaning your house and taking your dog for a walk and chatting nicely about things. Because if I was anything other than a good and lovely person you would be here alone stewing in your own juices.

I am a good person
My size doesn't matter

arrrrggghh now my kids aren't going to the right school and we aren't pushing them enough, they are 4 & 6 ffs

Do you mean NChanged that you are suffering mental health problems and are having to look after your mother. Glad you and your sibs have divided up the time so that no one gets too overwhelmed with your very difficult mother.

Only thing I can say is try not to take a scrap of notice what your mother says as she just seems to be trying to get at you and hurt you for whatever reason. So sorry you are having to go through this.

Just blank her out - lalalala to yourself (or something similar) every time she is nasty. She is unbelievably lucky that you are still prepared to help her.

Take care of yourself, and do just what you have to for your mother, and no more.

well done you for what you're doing

practice inane smile in front of mirror and say yes mum of course, then ignore

no your size doesn't matter and you know what is best for your kids

but you know that and we know that.

thanks all, will be able to escape tomorrow morning

I try to remind myself of all the people on the statelyhomes thread and others who have managed to distance themselves fromt heir unpleasant rellies,and realise that it is totally possible and if she is rude about my family, my body or my home one more time, she may well end up on the list of parents who don't get to see their grandchildren

sorry that sounded really threatening, I don't actually have the balls to go through with it, I will be at her beck and call until the day she or I am not here anymore.

looks like I mean it doesn't it!