pnd suffer struggling with the lows

[natalie1982]

Hi I've suffered pnd with all 4 children on a good treatment dr great but when the lows hit I struggle so much I have a toddler with lots of issues which effect my whole life I dnt go out or have many friends I feel iam losing myself advice appreciated.

Natalie - so sorry you are feeling so low. There are many young mums on here struggling with PND (I am a grandmother so have no experience of PND)However I have suffered 2 major episodes of depression, one many years ago and one last year and not yet recovered, as you say when the "lows hit" it is awful.

Can you say a little more about your situation. Are you on meds? If not you need to see gp asap. Assume you have HV as you have toddler with lots of issues - could she help. Having 4 children must be incredibly hard too, no matter how much you love them. Do you have a partner or husband - if so is he supportive of you?

Feeling like you are losing yourself is a very definite symptom of depression, so you must get medical help asap. I know that feeling, I felt like I was disintegrating.

Please make an appt with gp tomorrow - first thing. Write down how you are feeling in a list, which is easier to read.
Please come back and say how you are feeling. I am sure there will be lots of young mums who will be around to help you soon - it's probably cus it's the weekend.

Take good care and comeback and tell us how you are.

Sending warm wishes

thank you for your message, i am on treatment and have regular appointments, there really good, my hubby thinks if i go to work it will sort everything, he thinks he can do a better job, i know he dosent understand how i feel sometimes.but one min he cares then he dosent so i dont know were i stand i do love him and my children but when low its a battle. i know things dont get better over night but pnd/depression is a very lonely thing.

I can (just about) understand why your H thinks that going to work will "sort everything out" but I don't think he's right. In fact it could well make your MH problems worse. The trouble is until people have experienced depression they will never truly understand how bad it is. Depression is as you say a very lonely thing, because you feel you are cut off from the human race at times. When I am very low I am SO envious of people going abut their ordinary lives, laughing and chattin etc.

I suppose your H does try to understand but he can't sustain it because it is so difficult to understand. Can you give him something to read about depression, or could he go along to one of your GP appts.