need some advice

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My dd is almost 2 and I'm feeling lost I work 2 days a week and she is in nursery for 3 days to give me a day to myself. My husband is a lovely man who provides so much for us and I know that I'm incredibly lucky but I'm feeling like a bored middle class housewife. I find spending so much time at home intolerable I hate housework and miss the pre motherhood routine of returning home after a days work and being in a similar rhythm to my husband, we now argue about the house all the time. My friend says that I need a new career and to be absorbed by work again but I don't want to put dd into childcare for any more time and we have no family close by to help. It's really making me feel depressed

Didn't want your post to go unanswered, but I couldn't really tell what you want to do. If you're bored at home can you work 3 days a week rather than having the day to yourself? Or start studying part time?

Can you get a cleaner?

Do you and your daughter have a routine of outside the house things to do?

Does your husband expect you to do all the housework? If so then this is wrong. You work bringing up your child. He works doing whatever he does. You still split the housework.

And yy to the studying part-time.

Sorry to say this and I know it sound unempathetic but don't you mean "fed up" rather than depressed? If you are depressed please forgive me - are you having prolonged bouts of crying, feeling worthless and hopeless, unable to concentrate, sleep problems, suicidal thoughts?? These are just a few of the symptoms of depression though of course it canbe mild, moderate or severe.

It's just that there are many poeple on the MH threads really suffering from severe clinical depression (including myself) needing hospital care, on ADs and trying to struggle through with young children to care for.

Again if you really do have the symptoms of depression you must seek help from your GP and I apologise if I have got the wrong end of the stick - it's just that so many people say they are "depressed" when they mean "fed up" and so when those of us who do have clinical depression, very often people think we are just "fed up" and nothing could be further from the truth.

Having a child is a life changing event and it takes time to adjust to the new life, the lack of spontaneity and all the other things that go with looking after a child. Why not talk to your H.V who may have some ideas that are helpful.