so sad, for no reason!

[helly24]

I have the most wonderful new 8 week old little girl who smiles at me & melts my heart...yet I'm finding it hard to feel smiley for anyone else, including her daddy. I just want to shut the door & cry into a glass of wine when she has gone to bed, I have nothing to feel sad about, a great family & a husband who loves us both desperatly, yet, tonight for example he has gone for a pint with a old school mate & I threw a wobbly at them both & cried for an hour after they left...what for?? Thats not me & I hate myslef for it, but I know I'll yell & cry again tommorrow even tho I'll try not too, how am I gunna snap out of it???

Oh sweetie, have no advice to give just a shoulder to cry on. HAve you told any family or friends how you're feeling?

Helly, it is only natural that with a baby only 8 weeks old you may feel over tired and therefore somewhat sensitive. However, if you see these feelings don't improve (or you feel they are far too strong) ask for her help, talk to your GP, he/she may be able to help.

Hope you feel better soon.
Chandra

How you feeling tonight helly?

hi redtartanlass, have been feeling not so bad this week, had a couple fo good nights sleep & a huge talk with husband....lots of tears but helped us both I think. as amazing & wonderful as being a mummy to my little girl is nothing can prepare you can it? I think I forget she is still very new & try to do too much.

Classic, classic, baby blues.

Your hormones get very confused with all the changes to your body. If it doesn't pass in a few weeks see your doctor, just in case it progresses into post-natal depression.

Don't be hard on yourself. Don't feel guilty that you don't have a reason to feel like this. It's hormonal, a physical problem. You need feel no more guilty than you would with a tummy upset or a headache.

helly24 - anorak is spot on. It is classic baby blues. I suffered from all of thsoe emotions too especially the shutting away with a glass of wine. I used to lock myself in the bathroom and blub away in the tub with the hot tap running as I felt ashamed at how I felt and didn?t want DH to know. I felt so guilty - beautiful healthy baby, loving helpful DH, close family all there for me and I was a misery guts who just didn?t appreciate any of it.
My hv diagnosed my baby blues and was very supportive, talking it through, monitoring it without making me feel a failure or a pyscho. Pleased that you have talked it through with Dh. Hope that you find the support form each other to get through these early weeks. It is tough but it will get easier.
If you can, let your hv know that you are feeling quite tearful and to watch out for PND. You think you know yourself but it is very hard to be objective about depression yourself.
Get the sleep in when you can, don?t let trivial things like housework and appearance stress you out and , most importantly, keep talking xx

I thought baby blues only lasted the first week or two, so perhaps its just that dragging on. I'm not used to feeling so clingy & needy & feel I should be 'normal' again now...will have a talk to HV at clinic & will keep talking to DH. I feel heaps better for knowing I'm not the only one whos felt this way, so a big thank you to all of you xxx