does anyone's OH drive them insane!!!!!!

[maddie04]

Im positive my OH is trying to make my depression worse im sure of it

frequently, i quite often plot his hideous and untimely demise... but he is a mere man, and for this we must pity them

I think mine wants to put me in hospital but i wont let him

Oh I need help i really do think it he keeps telling me im getting worse and he needs to speak to my cpn and tell them the truth about things can he tell them to put me in hospital im so frightened

I never know if ive done something wrong im sure i have though

maddie, even if he isn't - and he's your dh, he loves you - the fact that you think he might needs to be discussed with your cpn.

He may find it reassuring to be included in your care team. DP and I have been working on strategies for him to use when I have "meltdowns" because he gets snappy when he's worried. Now he knows to make me a cup of tea, give me a cuddle and tell me how much he loves me, fetch the lavender oil, put the water on for a bath etc. It kick starts me to use my strategies, and keeps him calm doing something practical - which is what your DP wants to do for you.

Men like to think they can fix problems - sometimes it pays to let them think they are

No its different honest, I know he is trying to make me worse.
I think he wants the kids to himself and to find someone new i dont feel i belong in my own home, i dont want to be here and he knows that so i think he is pushing me to end my life!!!!!!!!!!!!!
My cpn coming out wednesday and he is going to tell her everything what do i do???????/

You contact a professional immediately.

If you are right, you need real life professional help with your relationship.

If you are wrong, you need real life professional help with your paranoia.

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Im sorry!!!!! you all think im crazy i probably
think im crazy too

Just to say that hospital is rarely suggested as a form of "help" it is usually used as a last resort, so what your dh is saying sounds unlikely to happen - that he can suggest you go to hosptial. Perhaps your cpn may need to give you more support, or a home treatment team involved, or a support worker - but hospital places are limited ... hope that reasures you. Know that is not the only issue.

I dont think i have the strength to fight all these feelings

Think i need a walk

Yes. You do. You have beautiful children and a DH who is trying his absolute best to support you.

But thats just it purplepidjin hes doing his best to make me worse not support me, but then everyone is going to believe him cause im the crazy one!!

Then you need to talk to Relate about your relationship and how you communicate with each other. Your CPN will be able to advise you about local stuff. Can you get a telephone appointment with him/her today?

So should I tell my CPN tomorrow that I dont think there is anything wrong with me?

You should tell your CPN everything that you are struggling with. Make notes to show her if you struggle to say it (I often end up incoherent with the tears) and show her this thread.

There is something "wrong" with you (I hate that word!) in that you are obviously really struggling, and you sound very scared. That's not a bad thing, it just means you need a bit of help from outside, which is why your CPN is coming to see you. S/he can't help you if they don't know the full story.