lack of confidence/self worth - self help?

[caughtupintheratrace]

Hiya, Just after a bit of advice please.

I have never been a 'confident person' but i am really trying to overcome this as feel it has held me back alot in life.
I have always had the thoughts like 'im not good enough', 'who cares what i have to say' but i am thinking like this all the time at the moment and it is REALLY getting me down and i keep working myself up.

Anyone have any tips or anything i can do to make myself feel any better ? I have a wonderful Husband and 2 brilliant kids so i feel like i have no right to feel this way which then makes me feel worse (if that makes sense)

Perhaps some form of martial arts / self defence classes?

You get out of the house, do something new and interesting, it's healthy, you meet people, and if you have a half-way decent instructor you should be able to tell them that the main reason you're doing this is to build your confidence.

They should then take that into consideration in how they approach teaching you.

I would suggest either something along the lines of Aikido or a properly traditional Japanese martial art, or Tai-Chi.

If martial arts seems a bit too contact / aggression based, then perhaps yoga?

I've had a very rough couple of years lately due to an acrimonious breakup and residency battle, and getting back into martial arts really helped give me something "for me" and kept me passably sane.

I would highly recommend Codependents Anonymous the 12 step fellowship - it is a self help group where you can get help specifically will low self esteem issues - have a look on their webiste www.coda-uk.org to see if there is a meeting near you.

Hi, I am in pretty much the same boat as you.
I've never had any confidence and have had low self esteem since I can remember (I was known to cry pretty much every day at junior school, if someone just looked at me) I also had a really small speech impediment which did not help I guess (but I got over that with the help of a therapist).

Right now my confidence is in my boots, I was studying for a diploma in Nursing last year and felt really good, but then things took a turn for the worst and I had to give up my dream. Now I barely leave the house. I cannot use the phone and really hate it if I have to do anything new or if anything changes....

One thing that did help me once was when I had a really great CPN, who I would see once a week, but then my circumstances changed and I had to move away, but we still keep in contact by post (which I think is pretty good of her).

I am on a whole range of tablets, none of which help the self esteem issue, so I wouldn't recommend that route....Not really sure what to suggest? Sorry I seem to have turned this reply into a thread about me (which is not really what I had in mind).

Just remember you are as good as the next person. (I try to!)

Take Care x x