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[cumbria81]

I think I am having a nervous breakdown. My heart is banging in my chest and I constantly feel as though I can't breathe. I am anxious and low and self-harming. I have even googled how to kill myself - but I don't think I would ever do that.

I split up with my long term partner last year; a decision that was mine but now one I very much regret. Now I am plagued by feelings of remorse and want him back.

My life is in ruins. I have no money, I live in a crap bedsit with no furniture nad sleep on the floor. I am terribly lonely. I miss him so much and what we shared.

I don't have DC, btw.

I just don't know what to do or where to turn. I called him around 3 this morning and we chatted but as he rightly said, he can't do anything to help.

I'm sorry that I don't have any real advice as not an expert, but I don't want your post to go unanswered. It sounds like you need someone to help make you feel stronger.

Is there someone in real life you can talk to? If not then please call Samaritans (08457 90 90 90 in the UK and Northern Ireland) if you are feeling really low as they are non judgemental and excellent in being able to help you if your are having these thoughts. If you don't feel you can contact them how about going to talk to your GP and see if you can get any counselling?

I have never felt this low, so don't know you're feeling but have suffered in the past and found counselling really helpful. Good luck and hugs. You can get through this :)

Sounds like you'r having a lot of panic attacks and are very anxious. When your GP surgery opens at about 8 please ring up and ask for an appointment today. If they are busy say it is an emergency. Then tell your doctor that you are totally not coping and how you are feelings. And yes you can and no you are not wasting his/her time.

You maybe given an anti-depressent that also works for anxiety or referred to counseling.

It is worth going as there is no need to keep feeling this way.

Cumbria, I could not leave this unanswered. I am so sorry that you feel so low at the moment.

Do you have a friend that you could call this morning and go for a walk with her and just talk?
DO you have family living nearby?
How old are you?
What do you do with your day? Do you work?
Have you been to your GP?

You WILL get through this. Its not easy at the moment, but you can have a future. Just take one day at a time firstly though, or if a day is too much to think about, just think about what you can do this morning.

Come back and talk and I hope others will come along and give you some more advice....

((((hugs))))

Thanks all.

I am 29. My parents live nearby but are due to go travelling in India for a month very soon. I know if I tell them how I am feeling my mum will flip out, either won't go or will go and not enjoy it, and I can't do that to them.

I work full time but haven't been in since Tuesday. I can't face it.

I have thought about the GP. I just think they will sigh and dismiss me as a moaning minnie. I know I need to pull myself together but it's been 8 months now and I just....can't.

No your GP wont think that!! And if he does, go and see another!!! Phone today and go and see one. You will need a sicknote anyway, so a good way to start the conversation. Tell him how you feel.
Just going and explaining how you feel to someone will help you. Your GP will have experience and will know what can be done to help you as soon as possible.

Please please go to your doctor. I had to go about 3 weeks ago and I'm now on anti-depressants. Sometimes you need a bit of help
please keep posting so we know your ok.We're all here fot you

xx

Cumbria, have you made an appointment to see your GP?
Please let us know how you are getting on this morning.

Thanks all.

My ex came round on his way to work as he was worried about me. It was so wonderful to see him, even though I know it means nothing. He told me I needed to get dressed and go to work adn that I need structure.

I managed to have a bath and wash my hair and now I'm at work. I burst into tears in front of my boss but luckily she was very nice about it.

I will make a GP's appointmnet, although I am scared that they will see the cuts I have made on my hands and think I am a nutter.

You're not a nutter and your GP won't think you are. There are lots of people out there who can help people in your situation. You're obviously having a horrible time but try to hang on to the idea that this is temporary and that you won't always feel like this. Things will get better, you'll see, but you must get yourself some help.

Let them see the cuts on your hands - it will show them that you need help. Don't worry - they will have seen this so many times before.

You did well to get bathed and dressed and go to work. Keep posting so we know your ok. Have you rung your doctors? xx

Just checking in to see how you got on today? Well done for getting up and going to work, that's a really good step. Really don't worry about the tears, it will probably help in the long run as it will help her see how you are. Did you get to see your GP?

Hi Cumbria, how are you doing? Did you manage to get to the doctor? I felt the same way you did before going to the doctor. I cried a lot while I was the doctor, mostly because their attitude towards me was so supportive. I'd never been to a doctor before and was really anxious about them thinking I was a waste of time. I realise now that I was silly to think that. I went on to anti-depressants, and although I was worried about the prospect of it, it's been the best thing I've done. I'm amazed at how 'normal' I feel. Totally back to normal. Not fuzzy headed, or drowsy or anything at all really, just normal. I hope you're feeling better.