Keziah, so sorry to hear you & your partner are both despairing at the situation & under further pressure . Sorry I wrote far too much a few days ago...I had been wanting to come back to suggest that, if your experience is typical of the type I've come across, you might be in for yet more jaw- dropping statements from MH services / the person whose report started this, & I'm afraid MH services users frequently find the written report, any additional diagnoses etc are often deeply shocking to read even after a CMHT meeting has appeared to go smoothly. There are sometimes factual errors about the simplest things, let alone incorrect assertions and prejudices. This, along with the team?s pronouncements as to your likeability, and the refusal of further help that they?ve already come up with, plus your health gatekeeper's outrageous actions, would have a life changing effect upon a person in a strong & fortunate phase of their life, let alone one in your vulnerable position, seeking the health services due to them.
As for having the report on your records, only others in your position can have any clue what you?re feeling, and I hope you get to talk with some of us when the situation has stabilised. You may not feel up to trying it yet but the "Mental Health Forum" has plenty of traffic- if unsure whether you have the right forum,it mentions on its home page that it's run by Radish Online.
You & your DP are trapped in a very real sense as to any way at all of challenging your lack of support and the welfare report and their consequences, and I hope we can support you on this thread - or another- as you face the content?s of this week?s letter and as you go through the process of seeking advice at some point.
The SW for the mental health team and your local MIND advocacy service have not fully recognised your situation so as to respond to you (or management decided resources were too stretched to provide the service) but I urge you not to lose hope as you WILL find advice from experienced, candid professionals & service users, as I did. I?m sorry I have no one to recommend to you as that was some years ago, but the legal advice line of the MIND national organisation might be helpful, depending on the advisor answering (I know that training means the response should be standard, but IME the life experience of a helpline advisor makes a great difference to their open- mindedness and understanding of your query).
Similarly, a local support group can be helpful or comprised of some more closeted types who look surprised at your experiences, so you need to feel more resilient before attempting one. I went to my local MIND group when dreading my own ?scary meeting? & was devastated by the group facilitator?s dismissal of my experiences with the CMHT. I suggest taking the opinions of paid facilitators & advocates with a pinch of salt, as they work closely with the local MH teams and may see them as hard- pressed and chummy types whose sound experience has lent them unprejudiced , sound , unprejudiced judgement?if only I hadn't let myself be scared off, the members of the support group may have been able to empathise with my difficulties!
I fear this is a hellish picture and I'm making you feel worse, but others have faced the hurdles of your situation and can advise. The important thing is to believe you will make breakthroughs in your search for advice support, & that those will add up to your clearing those hurdles, or tunnelling under them.
I -and others here, I'm sure - would be happy to test the waters of helplines with an initial query if you feel too awful to face possible insensitivity, and you could then call them if they can advise. Sorry for how intrusive that sounds, but you sound in such pain. Very best wishes for the week ahead.