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Mental health

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having a down day could do with some Support

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yabbs · 20/09/2005 12:48

My husband has gone away today but is back on friday my little keeped me awake alot last night all I have done today is cry we went for a walk earlier as I felt I just needed to get out of the house I dont know anyone here as we have not long moved but I am in Holland on my own feeling down sorry to go on.

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MrsMiggins · 20/09/2005 12:51

hi yabbs
sorry to hear you're having a bad day
how old is your baby/child?

cadbury · 20/09/2005 12:55

No need for sorry. It can be tough when you are on left your own at the best of times but everything is amplifies when you are sleep deprived. How old is your little one? Is there such a thing as paret and toddler/ baby groups you culd find out about if your little on is very little?

My dh is away a fair bit these days, and whilst I reasent the fact that he is, I actually find myself enjoying it a bit when he goes. I make sure I have a little something each day to look forward to (usually food or drink related with me ) and I make the most of having the evenings to myself, after the kids are in bed ( watchingh a film or programme I really like or having a long phone call with family or friends, or maybe just goijng to bed really early)

Of course, the other thingh to do is develop your mumsnet addiction further and spend all day chatting here

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yabbs · 20/09/2005 13:02

Thanks I think I will have a bit of a nap now my little one has gone down for a sleep he is 11 months old he is 1 next month. At the moment he is teething too which dosen't help bless him he is so good really. It funny I take my husband fort granted really he is a good Dad.

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MrsMiggins · 20/09/2005 13:05

good idea Yabbs...or just put your feet up with a good book or magazine
11 mths is a tiring age - teething, frustrated at not being able to walk, or make you understand

I dont know much about mother & toddler groups abroad - is there anywhere you could go to find out information?
What about your DH's job - are there wives there in similar situations?

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yabbs · 20/09/2005 14:37

Back again Just couldn't sleep hopefully I will have a early night fingers crossed.
There is a mother and toddler group here but I don't drive and its about 45 mins walk at least so would be a nightmare to work.
I am going home next month to do some driving lessons again (as I went home in july and failed) so fingers crossed I pass this time it will make it alot easier for both me and my little one.

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yabbs · 21/09/2005 11:28

Had another night of not sleeping well little ones teeth where really playing him up. It very strange being in a house on your own at night it took me ages to get to sleep not feeling so down today so that a good thing.

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cadbury · 21/09/2005 11:38

aww poor you. Are you dosing him up at night? Might increase your chances of a more peacef=ul night if you did. When dh was away when my ds was smaller, I used to have him in with me after the first time he woke up - I would have to be a lot less awake to comfort him when he was right next to me.
My dh is away tonight too so I've got a pizza and a fruit beer in for a treat (and some chocolate but that is part of my normal diet so not so much of a treat )

To help me get to sleep when dh isn't there, I also sleep with the tv or radio on - It kind of fills the space in my head that his breathing/snoring would normally be

Hope things improve for you and the little one. Don't forget, there is always someone around on mumsnet for a chat

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yabbs · 21/09/2005 13:33

Thanks cadbury I had the tv on last night too Just could not seam to settled. Tonight I have all what i want to watch on the tv planned and I am Hopeing to have a early night fingers crossed.Does you dh work away alot cadbury?

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cadbury · 21/09/2005 15:52

Me too. I have everything ringed in the tv guide! sad isn't it!

Dh has parts of the year when he is away a fair bit and other times when we can't get rid of him. It's silly seaon for conferences in Autumn and Spring so he's away a fair bit then.
Its just overnight this time.

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yabbs · 21/09/2005 17:56

So I will have to wait and see how tonight gose? well let you know in the morning! Hope you have a good night?

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yabbs · 22/09/2005 17:45

Not to bad last night he still woke up a couple of time but went back to sleep very quickly.

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cadbury · 22/09/2005 19:19

Glad it wasn't horrendous yabbs

My ds got me up at 4.15. It was nearly an hour before I could get back off to sleep again and then I slept through my alarm. Silly cadders.

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yabbs · 22/09/2005 19:51

Bless Cadbury did your dh come back today? Mine is back tommorow its gone quick really but he is back for a week then away again for 3 months this time but we are going back to the uk then so at least I will have my family around.

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cadbury · 23/09/2005 08:10

Is he in the forces yabbs? My dh came back yesterday - he has a few over nighters I thing until November when he will be away for either part or whole of every weekend in the month. He will also be in the USA for a week then too. Feel like a hotel sometimes

Fio2 · 23/09/2005 08:17

gosh tell me about it. i seem to have the opposite problem to you yabbs in the my dh appears to be living in Holland atm! I think i might come over with him in octber half term just to see more of him. it gets a bit too much sometimes doesnt it. you arent anywhere near Epe are you?

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yabbs · 23/09/2005 10:06

Yeah my Husband is in the army. I am living in a town called Herlen but the Camp is in a place called bussum about 20 mins away by car. He is back sometiem today he is in germany and its about a five hour drive back.
is your husband in the army fio 2?
Cadbury what dose your husband do?

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cadbury · 23/09/2005 10:11

My husband works for a Christian charity and he is all over the place with conferences at the moment.

I grew up in the army so know how tough the life can be. It's very unforgiving to the families. How lomg is his posting?

Fio2 · 23/09/2005 10:16

he works for the defence sector but isnt in the army. He is on an army range atm, grrr

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yabbs · 23/09/2005 10:27

Oh ok. We have been here about 7 months and its a three yr posting. We were in Germany before for two years just after we got married. But I work when we were in Germany so that made it easier. I am trying to register to be a childminder but its such a long process. its been dragging on for the past six months I just want to work so I can meet people really, Just hopping I pass my driving test so that will make life easier. is he in Holland alot fio? Did you have your treats the other night cadbury. I was very bad last night had chisps and chocolate mmmm.

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yabbs · 25/09/2005 19:14

Had a bit of a bad day today me and my dh had a arguement and I just feel so tired and have been crying alot today. We are off to the UK on Saturday it mite do us good to have the family around us as my husband goes away for three months the following wednesday. It will be nice to have my friends around me too just need cheering up.

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yabbs · 27/09/2005 15:11

Cadbury or fio you around?

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