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DH is depressed, how can I help

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ChristianaCatesby · 10/11/2010 13:28

Hello

DH has been on Prozac for about a year, the dose went up to 40mg in May and to 60mg a couple of weeks ago.

Over the last four weeks his depression has become markedly worse. I don't know what the triggers have been for this new slump, but he is worse than ever, and is sleeping a LOT, very blue, unmotivated, unhappy, frustrated, angry with himself.

A few months ago he was made redundant and the doctor a fortnight ago signed him off looking for work. At the same time he was made redundant our friend and her daughter were killed in a car crash and I know he found this deeply shocking. It also brought back memories of his best friend who died in a horrific way at a young age.

I have tried to make things as easy as possible for DH and look after him, remind him to eat, let him sleep, and I am trying to be as supportive as possible. I have accompanied him on his last GP visit and we are waiting for a psychiatric appointment which is next week. He is also seeing a counsellor but her view is that he is too low to receive CBT which is what she offers.

I am finding things really hard too because we are so broke and I obviously don't have the time to look after DH and our two DDs and the house AND look for a job so I feel pretty stressed. Is there anything I can do to help my DH recover? Am I missing anything? I feel like someone has taken my DH away and I miss him so much Sad

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cestlavielife · 10/11/2010 13:36

keep doing what you doing - but there is only so much you can do.

seek cousnelling for yourself, please. it is a lot to deal with.

see if he can access bereavement counselling?

and make breaks for yourself and the DC, you and they need time away with "happy" people. maybe your H can go to his friends/relatives for a day or weekend sometimes? or you and DC go off?

ChristianaCatesby · 10/11/2010 13:40

That's a good idea about breaks with happy people! I'll try to organise that.

DH's family live abroad and he doesn't want to tell them what has happened. He thinks they will just tell him to pull his socks up. Which is just so blatantly can't.

Luckily I have counselling as I had PND last year (we're having a TOPS time of it here). I am continuing to go to that which is a support.

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