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I can't go on, I've had enough ......................................................

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loulounz · 15/09/2005 10:49

Sad Sad Sad Sad Sad Sad

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yabbs · 16/09/2005 08:09

Whats wrong loulonz?

MascaraOHara · 16/09/2005 08:36

Whats happened? is ex being a pain?

loulounz · 16/09/2005 09:00

Fed up with the whole divorce process, yes ex being a very big pain - wants it all his own way. Just feel like walking away from it all, but I know I cant because of financial security for the dd's.

Want desperately to move back to my family for support - so lonely down here on my own, but house hasn't sold yet and Sol has advised me NOT to walk out of the house. What about my sanity?

Why didn't he 'F' off before giving me children? Would have been so much easier!

Surely something has got to go my way soon? Been stuck here for 10 months now and am slowly reaching the end!

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TracyK · 16/09/2005 09:02

Where do you live?
Can any of your family come for a visit? or a long lost friend for a holiday?
are your dd's at school - can you plan a day out with a girlfriend?

MascaraOHara · 16/09/2005 09:44

Men can be such tossers, personally I think it's how they deal with their hurt.

Where abouts are you living? do you have a mum/sister or somebody who could come and stay with you for a few days? could you go on a little holiday up there for a week?

ggglimpopo · 16/09/2005 10:02

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loulounz · 16/09/2005 21:24

My mum lives nearest to me and that's two hours away - but I have an on off relationship with her and at the minute it's off!

My other family are 4 hours away, where I want to relocate to and friends live nearly as far, but they are all happily married and have family commitments and I speak to them by e-mail and phone more than see them. Plus I only have enough money to pay my bills - nothing else! I have enough money to put one tank of petrol in my car a month, so the travelling distances would mean one trip away and then not being able to get to the shops etc (live too far away to walk to supermarket).

The lifestyle I had with my dh meant we moved around lots - I never really established any firm roots anywhere and lost contact with lots of old friends. He never took me out anywhere and I never went out on my own for various reasons, plus i'm quite shy so don't have any immediate friends close by. The good friends "we" had seem to have dwindled because they don't want to choose between us?! but again they all live miles away.

You lot are my only other lifeline at the minute and I want to thank you all for your support.

At the minute I feel like life has totally stopped and nothing I do is kickstarting it again - I really need the house to sell and then I'm on my way .......... things can only get better then surely???????

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GirlySquare · 18/09/2005 11:41

Hi Loulounz, your situation rings so many bells with me. Luckily I had no children, however my ex made things as difficult as he could to try and make me walk away.

He was the guilty party but didn't get his own way for once in his life. Sorry if I'm too blunt but the best bit of advice I had at the time was that things could only improve for me with him gone...and they did. I am so glad I'm not with him anymore.

TracyK · 18/09/2005 14:28

fingers crossed for a house sale! have you thought of trying to sell through an auction?

Somanykiddies · 19/09/2005 19:49

Loulounz, loads of best wishes to you. I felt just like you, wanted to walk away, the strain of divorce is immense but you will get through it. The sense of relief when you get the Absolut is amazing, something to be savoured. Take care.

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