It has been a while and I cant even rember who replied to my orginal thread, and don't know howw to search old threads. I am feeling a bit better at times but my husband and I have not spoken for a week. It is difficult and strained but at leaset I can say it is not my fault and I didn't do anything wrong. I just wish it would stop.
It is not "end of relationship" sitution but both of us just need to try more. Every thing becomes too complacent with small ones so the spark has gone. We need to find it again but till then or till we can sit down and talk it seems that separate beds will continue.
sorry just needed to share