Borderline personality disorder

[RitaLynn]

I'm writing for my sister who she thinks she may have a problem with this.

She's 30, and split up with her long term partner saying that roughly, he couldn't live with her mood swings. We had a tough time as our Dad died three years ago, but she's spoken to me that she has bitten herself on multiple occasions and can be quite up and down.

I'm no fan of internet diagnosis, but I wondered if anyone had any experience of this, and any advice.

yes,my ex was diagnosed with this....properly,with a psychiatrist. there are many strands to it too

as you say,internet diagnosis wont help

tell her to see gp as a first step.......

Thanks. I think the GP is the best way to go. She's not keen on seeing a GP (largely in part due to the stigma associated with mental health issues. In everyway, she's a competent, educated, smart woman.

Anyway, I'd also thought I'd bump to see if anyone else had any experience

She would have to go to her GP and ask to be referred to a psychiatrist. Be aware, they don't paticularly like it when you self diagnose though!

This is a good website to get some info if she does have BPD.

Thanks NS, I'll point that out to her. I just want her to be happy, and it hurts to see her unhappy.

I have BPD and she has to satisfy 5 of out 9 criteria to be diagnosed as BPD. Self harming doesn't automatically mean BPD. Hope she doesn't have BPD, it's horrible to live with.

Sorry, I have no advice concerning help for your sister, but the thread title caught my eye. My partner has considered leaving in the past because he finds it so difficult to deal with me. I have various problems and satisfy more than 5 of the 9 criteria. I know that the only person who could properly diagnose is a doctor and he has begged me to see one but I just can't bring myself to take the plunge.

Are employers able to see that you've diagnosed with a personality disorder? Do you have to disclose this information? Sorry for the hijack but I don't think I'll be comfortable with going to see a doctor if it'll negatively affect my life.

I'm ex-BPD - am also a "smart, intelligent woman" who holds down a good job - we're not all smack-whores... although sadly a large proportion of BPD women are. :(

You can get better - and as unpalatable as it might for some, the group most likely to recover from this are "white, pretty, educated, middle-class women".

I underwent nearly 4 years of Schema Therapy on a 1-2-1 basis and was involved in a research programme to help others and now the therapy doesn't need to run so long and is more effectively done in group sessions.

I've been free from diagnosis for over 2 years now and this year gave birth to my first child - I am now finally a great mum, before my therapy I wouldn't have been very nice at all. :(