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I am so anxious, the memories of how I used to feel are coming flooding back (crippling anxiety/sickness). I am 5 weeks pg (2nd child) and terrified I am going to cause a miscarriage by feeling like this. I received a letter from a vindictive ex-friend who I have cut out of my life and it has triggered this. Will it all be ok? Please help, crying, please don't let it come back adn please dont let my pregnancy end becasue of me.

You cannot cause a miscarriage by worrying. Do not feel guilty about worrying.

Give yourself five minutes, now, to write all your worries on a piece of paper, and then END the writing, and put the piece of paper in a drawer. Then please go to bed and get some sleep and you will feel fine in the morning. If you don't feel fine tomorrow, come back to this thread and we will talk some more about mental health in pregnancy.

hi. I'm just here and I don't have your experience, but you will be fine. You won't cause miscarriage. Try to do something that might calm you down. have warm milk, warm bath and read book, sleep?

you won't harm the baby
as colditz says try to get some sleep
x

Really? cannot cause miscarriage? Then i will be fine. That is what is making the feeligns escalate. I just wish i could control it, haven't felt like this for several years but off medication now as trying for a baby. i think I feel like I will be ill as I have had episodes in the past of panic attacks

take a funny book to bed or watch a very funny DVD. i find it very hard to be anxious whilst watching Jim Carrey thrash himself against the bathroom wall in Liar liar, for example.

You won't hurt your baby, I have suffered with anxiety through all of my 3 pregnancies and the babies are fine, one of them, I was extremely anxious and he is a laid back strapping big 16 month old now.

I went to the GP who referred me to a team in the Ante natal Unit. I saw a phsychiatrist and she presribed me some fab medication that is safe during pregnancy. i feel great now. It is worth seeking help. i find that it is the pregnancy that triggers my anxiety, to do with the hormones. i get it every time. In fact that was the first symptom of my last pregnancy, I just felt frightened.

thank you everyone, so much. I am going to do a 'thought record' to see if it helps, then put it away.

I have Dumb and dumber on DVD, that might do

OnEdge that is interesting. I have docs tomorrow so can talk about it then.

OK, you're suffering from anxiety.
Put a pen/pencil and paper where you can reach it from the chair.

Pace.

Pace the living room.

15 times up and down.
Sit down.
Count your breaths in for a slow three and out for a slow three. Ten times.
Relax.
Write down all your worries.
Go into the kitchen and get yourself a tea or a hot chocolate(and maybe a bit of toast).

What you are feeling is normal.
Speak to your GP/midwife if you are suffering anxiety mid-morning.
They are on your side.

You are doing well.
You are a good mum.
You are a good mum to the baby you are carrying.
You are OK.

You will be fine.

toast is a good idea. i didn't eat much dinner as upset which i know doesn't help. I am writing down thoughts now, thank you. I feel calmer but keep talking to me if you want to. I find it hard to believe all the adrenilin coursing through my body won't make it give up on the pregnancy. That sounds stupid but its never rational when you feel like this is it?

It is rational, but knowing that doesn't make it any easier to deal with.
Have a bit to eat. It will raise your sugar levels and that is always good.
You are fine.
You are good.
Wrap your arms around yourself and give yourself a hug.

I just want to say thank you to you all for taking the time to talk to me last night. I had toast, hot choc and watched CDWM on Sky Plus! I managed to get about 3 hours blissful sleep between the awful anxiety but it is waning slightly today and I am starting to believe I am not headed back down that road again after all. It brought back so many memories and I was shocked that it could all be triggered like that; the racing, pounding heart, sickness, sweating, trembling etc. Saw GP today about my new pg and he said there are no sleeping tablets I can take this early in pg due to the risks of developing baby. Anyone know better? I think part of it is I need some sleep. Thanks MN for saving me last night x

I got awful pregnancy insomnia, so it could just be the pregnancy itself that's making you unable to sleep, which is making you anxious.

Please be assured that you are not harming your baby in any way. You're just making yourself tired.

i am.

i have insomnia.

the melatonin was taking hold when the bass from the neighbour in the next stair kicked off.

yes, at a quarter to one in the morning.

i rang his buzzer and screeched 7 shades of holy hell to him.

he's gone quiet, but now i had to take tempazepam because shite like this always touches off my anxiety.

sorry you're have a rough time.

you won't end your pregnancy because of this.

it'll be okay.