Why are people cross that I'm feeling depressed

[Saffyronron]

I'm feeling really low at the moment and found the courage today to tell a friend at work, who promptly went on to ignore me for the rest of the afternoon. Totally unrelated to me saying I was feeling depressed but didn't really warrant an afternoon of ignoring me. I really felt the need to talk to someone and have limited friendships. I rang my one and only close friend and told her I was feeling really depressed and thought I might need to see a doctor. I took a lot of courage for me to tell her. She then went on about how shit things were for her and was clearly angry at me for feeling this way. I appreciate I'm not the only one with problems, but I'm seriously feeling lower than I have done for as long as I can remember. It's just made me feel even more depressed. God I feel isolated and weak and honestly think people get cross if you tell them you're feeling low.

I am sorry you are feeling so low. Maybe people just don't know what to say to you or by telling you how they are feeling they feel they are sharing an experience with you. Have you thought of going to see a counsellor - someone who will give you their undivided attention and maybe offer you the type of support you need

Thanks janx. I'm paying for private therapy and it's really helpful. I'm a bit p*ssed off really that my friends couldn't just put their own stuff to one side and listen to me for a few minutes. I sense it's because people have their own problems and I shouldn't be mad I guess. I just wanted to chat to a friend and I suppose hope that might make me feel a bit better. I have to say I've been reading another thread and it's cheered me up no end. Nothing to do with mental health - taking my mind off things has helped. MN is great!

I think you are right and friends do not seem to want to know - rather than sympathising, they often see it as an opportunity to air their own probelms. Listening is a skill - unfortunately, not many of us have it!

Glad you are happier now.