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feeling low and worried about how low I'm getting

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monday27 · 27/09/2010 14:59

hi, in summary there is a lot going on - i'm made redundant end of this year; work full time 2.5 yr old DS who will have to go to another nursery. We have a lot of debt which redudnancy clear a lot of but then house needs HUGE amounts doing to it. Ongoing stress issues on my family side, DH's family too - health and other. I've piled on pounds and prior to the redundancy thing wasn't able to conceive no. 2 .. it's such a vicious circle.

thing that's concerning me most is, and I know that to any normal person, the same applies - I'm finding it increasingly scary and frightening about the awful stories in press re children being hurt by parents, of all kinds. I think what started it off was poor Baby P; since then I fret about these poor children all the time. I'm not looking for sympathy on this, as obviously the poor children and those close to them, involved etc, are the victims. I'm just Joe Public. But I'm scared at the sort of world I've brought my child into. I'm scared at having another.. and I'm scared that I'm feeling so hateful about myself that I might take it out, in a small way or then more, on my child. on Saturday I shut the door on my son and heard him crying in the bedroom for a few mins before I opened it. I feel that I did it to upset him. Is this 'normal' as in have others done it? I feel so guilty... he is cherished and I've never done anything even near this before.. but what is the downhill path?

I just feel so low, and alone. I put on a brave face to everyone and downplay the stresses (I do know other people have far worse). but I'm just scared and feel the GP's just think I'm a hypo. Sorry for the long message. What should I do? I have no friends with young children, our NCT group are no longer in touch sadly. Husband is an eternal optimist and que sera type attitude. I can't break through to him to show how low I am.

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monday27 · 27/09/2010 19:45

I would really appreciate any comments - thanks

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monday27 · 28/09/2010 03:46

I am a regular reader, sometime poster, changed names as feel crappy about what I've been feeling. I hope someone can reply..up as not sleeping and don't know how to tell family and husband how down I feel....

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itsonlyajob · 28/09/2010 06:43

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mittz · 28/09/2010 07:03

Hey Monday I am sorry you are feeling like this, but it is not surprising, it sounds like you have had a rough time.
It is 'normal' to feel like this when things are tough so try not to make your self feel worse by feeling bad about it if you can.

I would say also talk to a doctor and your DH, show either of them your OP as a starting point if it helps..

Little things like making you sure you get fresh air and talk to folk can be a big help.. sharing really can be a start to getting things back on track so at least keep talking on here if you don't feel ready to talk to friends.

Re your son... There are times when things are fraught when we all have to leave our little ones to cry, and yes it is a hard, harsh world but we can all at least put thelight into the part of it that we live in it for them and bit by bit the balance can shift.. it can be a pretty amazing place as well Smile

Take care , have to get my DC's ready for school now.. x

monday27 · 03/10/2010 16:06

thanks for the replies. i think i'm getting worse. had slight ups and big lows all week; panic attacks i think.

told ds today he was a v naughty boy and that no one likes naughty boys; he would have to go and live with anohter mummy and daddy as we didnt' want him any more

ive told my dh and we're going to talk but am i right to go to my gp about this. i think it's the redundancy situation. i don't know what to do re work, full time has taken its toll and to carry on in same work field is scaring me.

i love my ds and don't want to hurt him. thankfully as he's never been told anything like that before i dont' think he understood, his lip trembled, and he was sad, but

i'm scared if i'm on the wya to a breakdown?

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single1ds · 03/10/2010 16:15

Hi monday27
definately go to the gp sounds like you are very stressed and anxious and need a bit of "time out"
i have a nearly 3 year old, i think they understand more the tone of your voice, i dont think he would have really understood what you said but you do recognise what you said and noticed his reaction so thats good.

in my opinion reading your post just now you are panicy and that is why you are feeling scared. nothing bad will happen, deep breathes..

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