My son thinks about death every day..

[Littleblue]

And now he's left home for University.He's my firstborn,19 years old and has a history of problems with depression since early teens because his stepfather bullied him.
We left this man three years ago and my son had a minor breakdown.He told me about these thoughts the other day prior to seeing our gp because he was concerned he might be sectioned!!
He said he won't hurt himself but I know he's drinking alot...I just don't know how to live with the worry..he has promised to see a gp when he gets to his new home again...just beside myself really.

thank you arcadia...much appreciated

hes come home by taxi..wanted to go into hospital hes so down..i dont know how the hell to make this better..but hes seeing doc this week and has gone on different tablets..so worried

he wanted to kill himself friday..only didnt cos his friends would have found him

Joining this discussion rather late. So sorry to hear of your situation, I can almost feel your pain through your messages.

Have you tried calling MIND (the mental health charity) they have an info line which might provide you with ideas for support for you, you need support too - 0845 766 0163.

I haven't had much experience of mental health issues, but I do know that I hated Uni and spent 2 terms crying, coming back home and missing my old life. I left (which was a difficult decision), got a job and through working my way up got a senior management job. In retrospect I don't think I missed out.

In fact with the number of students studying due to the recession, if he leaves now and gets a job he'll be 3 years ahead of his peers in experience terms, and generally experience counts for more than education - esp after your first job.

If I were you I'd think about letting him come home. Uni isn't for everyone. I appreciate the issue is bigger than "just" uni but he might find it easier to cope with everything if he is at home.

Thinking of you all.

Keep posting.

Ive had to send him back..his choice not mine.He says he feels more stable now and wont hurt himself..he even expressed regret at not getting me to cut his hair whilst he is here..
I have told him that he can come home , i was unhappy he didn't stay longer but apparently has a big day at uni tomos and needed to get back.Ive given him the number of the samaritans and made him promise to call them if he feels that bad again.
This is so hard..but i can do very little in reality,he says he can feel im here for him.
I will ring MIND tomos for advice..thank you.