Feeling Cr@p..............

[BunnyBoo]

Having a really crap day today and feeling really down about EVERYTHING.

Fed up with being pregnant and struggling, my ds who is 3 is getting out of control and just will not listen to me, so far today he has thrown jelly all over the lounge carpet and smudged jam from his sandwich into our cream sofa, then he decided cause mummy's back was turned he was going to go into the kitchen and get the orange juice and pour it all over the floor.

He will not listen to me at all unless i shout loud at him, he runs away from me when out in the street and i can not cope anymore.

To top my day all off had to take the dog to the RSPCA as just don't have the time for him anymore and feel he deserves a better home than we can offer as he was a very active and excitable dog but i adored him, so that has broken my heart.

Dp is just being an unsupportive arse and always gives me all the shit jobs to deal with, he does nothing but work and play and thinks that is all he has to do while i am 5 months pregnant struggling and really down. To top it all off MIL and FIl came to stay and just pissed me off and niggled at me the whole time, while MIL calls me my dp's ex's name instead of my own which does my head in

I have sat here today and cried and cried and wondered why i am with dp and how much easier my life would be without him and his family in my life, i sat here thinking "what do i actually get from dp while being with him" and the answer was nothing but a stable life within the financial side of things, but in my eyes money does not bring happiness and i am feeling very sad low and lonely.

Anyway needed to write this all down so my rant is over and thank you to anyone who is listening

Bunnyboo

Poor you....you sound like you're having a bad time today. When are you due? It's tough having a 3 year old to entertain whilst being pregnant!

Could you get the RSPCA to "foster" your dog so you could get him back when things aren't so on top of you?

Can you get out for some fresh air - leave the house for a while and go round the block? Let ds burn off some of his energy elsewhere and not over your poor sofa/kitchen!

I think sometimes dp's don't realise how tough being pregnant is. Can you sit him down and explain how you feel?

I'm sure you'll get lots of support and advice on Mumsnet. Keep posting and checking in. I never really know what to suggest, but wanted to let you know that you're among friends here.

Put your feet up for 10 mins and have a cup of tea....

Hi mumbojumbo thanks for being there.

With the dog situation it's not a mtter of how i am feeling now it has been a decision that was made a few months back but it has been a very hard thing to accept and go through. We could not keep the dog here with a new baby on the way he was quite bostorous and i was so worried that if when the baby is here i put it down he would just jump all over it and hurt it, so it was something we had to let go of and try and move on but blimey it was hard taking him there today. My dp does not have the time to entertain him and walk him and he was a very very active dog.

I have been suffering alot from this pregnancy and finding things very hard the baby is due in january so i am 5 months. Trying to stay positive but full of regret and sadness at the moment.

Dp is one of the hardest people to talk to, his answers are always so Hard he has no sympathy for anyone. It's like this with dp he says if you have a head ache then don't sit there and moan about it take so pills.

I have struggled and i just feel like he has just sat back and watched me and moaned about his dinner not being on the table and stupid things like that, i think hes family coming here and himing making me take the dog instead of him doing it has just finished me off really and made me sit back and wonder why i am allowing all this.

I see what you mean about your dog now. It must have been very difficult for you as he was a part of your family.

Hmmm, how to handle your partner? I think it's a trait of men to be the practical ones and go straight for a solution and sometimes completely miss the point. If I say to my dh that I've had a bad day, I sometimes just want a hug not a list of things to do/solutions. Maybe try writing stuff down for him in a letter/email so he understands how you feel.....

Is there anyone near you who you can lean on for support? Any friends, other mums? Is your Health Visitor or GP any good to talk to? Do you have any toddler groups you could get to - just for some other mum company?

Where abouts in the country are you - just name region if you don't want to be too specific. Do you manage to get any time for YOU? Difficult I know!

I'm sure someone will offer some sound advice - hope this helps "chatting" it through.

Sorry i went and had a lie in bed. I know what you mean about men, I have spoken to dp since and had my little cry he is trying to be understanding as i think he now knows i am at the end of my tether with it all at the moment.

I do have a mother and toddlers group we go to but it does not start again till the 15/09 but i will be trying to get there. Also ds starts nursery again on the 13th sept so that will give me a little break from him. I do have family around me but find it hard talking to them, aprt from my sister i had a good cry to her on the phone this morning.

I don't have any time at all away from ds apart from when we go to bed, but he still manages to come and wake me up in the night to make sure i am still here lol

We are going away to Majorca this weekend for a week which is a much needed break, i think all the getting packed and ready has worn me out and stressed me out but nearly there now.

Thanks for listening i think i did need to just chat i don't normally start threads like this as i am a very private person but blimey i needed to rant today.

Glad you are feeling a little better, I'm sorry about your dog it must have been such a difficult decisison.

Does your ds misbehave because he is boared, could dp make him some kind of den in the gardento help keep him amused while he is at work`. Sorry if all this is useles, will have a think.