a terrible admission?

[bonkersboy]

After fourteen months I am coming to the conclusion that I am just not enjoying being a mother.

I have a very lively and lovely DS who I am still BF (to sleep only) but who is always reluctant to sleep and wakes a lot during the night.

The other day we were in a museum (no choice, sadly) and he was the only baby awake and going mad in his pushchair. I never see other children awake or getting bored and restless like he does. In a way it is good as it shows he is bright but the occasional rest would be good. I have very little support as we are a long way from family and only a few local friends. DH also workds from home so I feel I have to stay out of his way as much as poss. to let him work.
I have a bit of childcare from a local lady.

I know there are thousands worse off than me but I also never seem to come across anyone saying that they are not enjoying being a mother and constantly long for their "old life" back.

I don't think this is PND but I would love to know what it is!!

Hi BB, we are trying the naughty corner again, as saying no doesn't work. The annoying thing is that dd knows what she is doing is wrong- she almost says sorry before she pinches/hurts you!
I give dd a warning first - "if you do that again you are going in the naughty corner". If she repeats the offence, she stands in the corner for 2 minutes. After that I go back to her, get down to her level, and explain as calmly as possible "pinching hurts, do not do it again - now say sorry please" - or something along those lines! The thing with it is to stick to your guns, otherwise if you let it slip once (which we have) then dd takes the p*! TBH though I think it is just a phase which I hope she will grow out of - finding it v hard at the moment and feel it such a kick in the teeth especially as she has has a good life. Hey ho!

bonkersboy - have you had a full night's sleep since your boy was born? I know lots of toddlers who go crazy being cooped in their pushchair - my lad was good as gold till he learnt to walk, but now he really makes his views felt if he's getting bored. I really don't think that your boy is in any way abnormal.

I do wonder whether the main problem is needing more breaks and more space - it must be so hard trying to keep an inquisitive toddler out of your husband's way.

please try and speak to your doc tho.

Have been in Spain for over 3 years - DS was born here (at home). There are about half a dozen other people with children under 5. The expat community is not big (we are not in a coastal area) and I sense that some might be a bit "sniffy" about such a group. I'm now getting cold feet about trying to set one up. A women's group was set up about a year ago but no children are allowed to go to that!

DS is a bit little for the naughty corner at 14 months. Do i just let the physical abuse go until he gets the meaning of "no"?

Definitely no full nights sleep since he was born!

He wakes an awful lot during the night, takes ages to go to bed at night (leaving me no time to myself in the evening) and is developing a happy knack of not sleeping much during the day (although he appears to be tired all day).