does your dh ask/show interest if you take ad's

[onelastchance]

tha's it really mine never does show any interst/ask how i am on then or how they're affecting me. Does anyone else's ask?

Nah I think he finds it tedious

mine said it just doesn't occurr to him to ask

yes he does. he's very understanding generally, probably because he had severe depression in the past too.

are you ok OP?

feeling very tired ,but just about ok thanks mmm.

I guess that as your dh has had depression, he understands more

My DH was very understanding, used to ask how I was all the time - he would remind me to take my tablets if I'd fallen asleep putting DS down or something.

lucky you alibaba I don't expect to be asked all the time. Just the odd, how are you doing with the tablets? are they helping etc would be nice

mine was there right at the beginning (ten years ago) with the health visitor trying to convince me that I wasn't going crazy, I was severely depressed and needed to take ad's

he then helped me change them when I got pg so I couldcarry on taking them and go on to bf

he would ask me if I had taken them

tell me he could see they were working and was I feeling better and then down the years he could tell when I hadn't taken them and remind me

Mine makes sure I have taken them.

You okay, onelastchance?

i've said to him that it upsets me that he never asks and he says he will. But he never does....

have you had a proper talk with him OP? sometimes people just aren't aware of these things. I admit I have had the odd conversation with DH, understanding though he is, sometimes he'd just forget to ask how my day was (this was before I was back on ADs) it was just because of the distractions of doing dinner, getting kids sorted etc, rather than not caring

oh yes had proper talks about it. he said he cares about my welfare but it just never occurs to him to ask

suppose it's not surprising he doesn't ask. it's just another thing in the list of things wrong with us

oh dear. sorry to hear that. so you've had a talk about the not-asking-how-you-are thing... have you had a talk about your relationship in general, and how this might be a symptom of a bigger problem?

do you think you're on ADs because of your relationship problems?

hope you're feeling ok. do post here more, if it's helping xx

yes, having big conversations about the relationship in general - have another thread going on that.

Yes, i do think i'm taking th ad's because of how our relationship is (dh knows this). however i have taken them in the past so he would be unlikely to believe it's just because of thr state of the things.

Do you think you would be better emotionally/mentally if you weren't with him?

Maybe i really don't know. I was in quite a bad place emotionally when i met dh but have had counselling and done alot of thinking and changing myself, and the behaviours i previously were ok or just me being too sensitive are now no longer acceptable to me

I know I am better now I have dh as I have been able to have counselling. I am sure I wouldn't have bothered if I was single. I also know I am much worse since having the children.

What do you really want, onelastchance?

What i really want is to be happy with my dh but i;m losing hope of that happening...