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Could this be alzheimer's?

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MintyBadger · 28/07/2010 14:23

I have a question about my mother - not sure if it's mental health or if it's something that we need to be more proactive about (as opposed to her doing something about it if you see what I mean).

She is 55. She has always had a temper and I wouldn't say she is really bright - I think of her as quite gullible in a way. Lately she has lost her temper really badly at things that she shouldn't really be losing control over. In emails, she suddenly started spelling my name wrongly (it has 3 letters and she added a fourth) and when I joked about it I got no response at all.

We don't get on that well (can you tell?) and I have had to ask her not to turn up at the school to pick up my children without asking me - she would just be there and expect us to change our plans to accommodate her presence, and to be grateful that she wanted to take them to the park. I asked her several times simply to call me beforehand in case we had other plans, and when she did it yet again, a few weeks ago, I am afraid I lost my temper with her and things have been very fraught.

The alarm bell is that she says she simply didn't understand what I was getting at before. It really seemed to be new information to her. I know her and I know the difference between that and someone who is playing a power game. It is really odd.

I suppose she could have turned into a blatantly horrid person (the foundations are certainly there) and she could be deliberately behaving oddly but it feels more like she's living in another world (difficult to explain).
Also, frankly she has been like this for years - but definitely lately it has got worse.

I ask about alzheimer's because a couple of people have said 'oh that sounds like it could be' and I wondered if any of you knows anything about it.

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willsurvivethis · 28/07/2010 14:25

it could be very early stages from what you say - but could equally be depression or just problems between the two of you.

msrisotto · 28/07/2010 14:28

I work with older adults with dementia. From what you have said, there isn't enough information to say either way.

Do you know if she forgets other things?

MintyBadger · 28/07/2010 14:29

There are certainly problems between the two of us!
The difference is that something like spelling my name wrongly would take the kind of awareness of how to screw with someone's mind that my mother just doesn't have. It would be a very calculated action. She is naturally quite a bitch but usually not towards me (plenty about other people) and it is judgemental-type nastiness about eg foreigners, not mind games.

Does depression present like this, with people claiming not to have understood quite simple ideas? I don't really know.

I suppose I just don't want to write her off totally if she needs proper help. If she doesn't, I'm pretty much done with her iyswim.

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MintyBadger · 28/07/2010 14:31

MsRisotto, it is hard to know if she is forgetful, because she talks about herself a lot as a forgetful person. But actually, it's more of a persona - 'I'd forget my head if it wasn't screwed on!' She can certainly function, run a house, cook, do ebay etc.

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msrisotto · 28/07/2010 14:32

tbh, I would hold off trying to diagnose her until something really sparks your radar.

Do find out if she forgets to eat or forgets if the cooker is on or the bath taps or etc etc

MintyBadger · 28/07/2010 14:36

OK I will probe. Thanks.
She has a husband, I'd quite like to talk to him, but I feel I'd open the floodgates if I did.
The name thing really did spark my radar btw, and the inability to understand the picking-up-from-school-at-random thing.

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