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Anxiety!

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Canadiangirl · 27/07/2010 22:54

Hi all,
My son is 9 weeks old and I'm finding myself really worried about my own health. For example, I've had a pain, on and off, in the back of my head, and what I think are tension headaches (probably from sleep deprivation). Automatically, I started crying with fear of having a brain tumour and not being able to see my gorgeous boy grow up. Is this normal?!! I just feel like I love him so much that I'm scared something's going to go wrong, to keep me from watching him grow up.
Anyone else ever gone through this?

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scurryfunge · 27/07/2010 22:59

Yes, all natural feelings for a short time but the important thing is not to let these thoughts be all consuming.

You need to remind yourself it is highly unlikely that anything is wrong and concentrate on what is good and enjoyable.

Your only thoughts with a newborn is that you can nurture him and protect him and so all you are doing is questioning your confidence to do that.....of course you can.

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willsurvivethis · 28/07/2010 07:45

In my view totally normal.

You become so vunerable in your child. Your child depends on you and if something happens to you who will look after them. You will adjust soon. If not it is worth talking it over.

chasingrainbows · 28/07/2010 19:21

your fears are normal - maternal/paternal responsibility can make you consider your own mortality - its only natural.
Id mention the headaches to your gp - could be dehydration, toothache, postural......or any number of non nasty things.
take care canadiangirl & have fun with ds

Canadiangirl · 29/07/2010 19:30

Thanks everyone for your kind messages.
I had to take my gorgeous boy to the gp this morning as he's got conjunctivitis, the poor sweet boy, and the gp slightly chuckled and said my headaches are common in new mums, that it's a trying, exhausting time. Plus, I've been falling asleep on the couch every night for almost a month (my boy is a noisy sleeper and my fiance is a light sleeper, which isn't a good combo, so I've been keeping him in the lounge in his moses basket overnight and staying with him), which means my neck and shoulders feel very sore and tense, and it's probably all connected. I wouldn't discount dehydration though too, chasingrainbows, as I know I haven't been drinking nearly enough water lately.

Funny how I feel so vulnerable now that I know my son is completely reliant on me. I don't have to go back to work until next June but I already feel worried about having to leave my lovely boy at daycare, so I think I'm just desperate to be around to look after him every day. Sigh. I didn't know parenthood would be so emotionally exhausting?!

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