Urgent help please re dd

[deaddei]

dd (13) has a history of OCD which is under control at the moment.
She and a friend had a falling out a few months ago, and friend has been name calling "anorexic", "lesbian", "teachers pet" etc.
According to the school this has stopped, but dd has become obsessed with this friend taking her other friends away- has been deliberately forgetting homework etc to get detention so not seen as neeky etc.
Had a long chat with her at the weekend- only a couple of days left at school, holidays coming up, friend not in same teaching group next year.
School just called- dd refusing to go to lessons where friend is, talking of running away and cutting herself on her legs.
She's having talk with her tutor after school- head of year made me feel like shit.

Apart from CAHMS which we've been through once - are there any organisations I can talk to about this- I am planning to call our doctor who is quite sympathetic.

I just felt things were getting better, and I'm sitting here crying- dh not particularly sympathetic when it comes to this.

Deaddei,
I am fortunate to have no experience of this but wanted to say that my thoughts are with you and hopefully someone will be able to help you soon.
Smarty

Try charity called Young Minds : www.youngminds.org.uk/ They have a phone line for parents which is 0808 802 5544.

I rang them when DS suddenly developed OCD in the run up to exams and found it very helpful to talk through what was going on. They also publish various guides and info sheets specifically designed for young teenagers.

Sorry to hear your daughter is going through this. Please don't beat yourself up -- I am sure you have been supporting your DD (?maybe she is displaying challenging behaviour at school in the hopes they will be nicer to her, as head of year's response to you does not seem to have been that helpful)

MY friend has a dd with emotional issues and she was helped by her GP.

Is your dh her dad? He needs to step up and stop being an arse tbh.

Talk to the head, she has no right to be making you feel crap. How about she finishes school today? The school have a duty of care to your daughter.

Really sorry Deaddei.

Own ds (also has OCD - first realised when he was 12) had issues re a video he saw in PSE. He fainted and was terrified of going into school because he was frightened of fainting again.

He carried on going in and overcame the fear. But we had to talk and talk and talk it through, and he had to learn some techniques for dealing with it.

Don't know much about it, but I think it's called cognitive behavioural therapy, or our own version of it anyway.

It's really difficult to dislodge these fixed ideas in someone else's head. The thing about OCD in our experience is that once a particular episode runs its course, it just seems to evaporate. Other things take its place of course, and they have to be dealt with as they come up. So far for us it has always been triggered by stress.

So taking your daughter out of school for now and letting her calm down during the holidays might be a good way to go. She probably needs time to work out a way of dealing with it.

Have you told the school about her OCD? My son wouldn't let me, but I really wanted to ...

Good luck.

Thank you for your replies.
She has gone in today for the last day, and is going to a friend for the rest of the day (a friend who she has confided in)
The school know about her OCD, and sadly I think this has been used as a reason for thinking she is over reacting "oh little deaddei has mental health issues"
Grannie- she has had CBT and hypnotherapy quite successfully, but we may have to go back before term starts.
I just realised yesterday how vulnerable she is- just needs special care.
Anyway I feel much more positive today and am out with the girls tonight to have a few drinks.
Thank goodness for Mn though.
And yes, dh can be an arse- he had a very loveless childhood and just does not get emotions/hormones etc.