major knock back..v v low

[Littleblue]

Met a guy i'd been chatting to online yesterday..It wasn't on a dating site..it was a 'make new friends' thing.Anyway..we were both going to be in the same place so we met up for a drink..both had a friend with us.
We chatted in the sun for a bit..he got chatting to someone he hadn't seen in ages and said he would join us shortly when we said we needed to get out of the sun for a bit..when we went to find him as we needed to go , some 20 mins later..he had gone , his friend was still about but with other folk.I called him and he rejected the call..didn't answer my text either...I'm overweight..not massive , im a 16 tho and this has really dented my hard earnt confidence..

You are better off without a guy who is a weak worm who just slopes off and then ignores texts....think of it as a lucky escape, and maybe you just weren't his "type", he certainly doesn't sound like a catch!!

He is obviously not good enough for you, spineless idiot.
So sorry he has made you feel like this, deep breath and you can go out and meet other people that are actually worth talking to.

Its such a shock to the system tbh..i'm trying hard not to let it reinforce all the negativity I have about myself..I didn't fancy him in the slightest..

I'm sorry, that's a crap thing to happen. It's awful how the behaviour of just one person can affect how you feel. I think that situation, or some variation on it, has happened to all of us though. Just be glad you didn't waste any more time on him. You will meet someone who appreciates you!

Thank you..all of you , It feels like shit..I was only after making new friends in the city etc..diversify my social life a bit etc..ive been quite reclusive in the past and im doing really well generally , feel really knocked back

well, keep going and you will meet someone nicer I'm sure!

Bless you..I know , its such an appallingly rude and arrogant way to treat someone tho..i'm amazed.

It's the hard thing about meeting new people isn't it? You inevitably have to open yourself up and it is always a risk. Best thing to do is plan a nice evening with someone you feel really good with, whether that's a friend or a relative, someone who can build you up again, and work on getting your self esteem back before trying again!

Ive a friend staying nearby at the moment..she's been amazing...I'm very lucky as I do have a rock solid bunch of friends..but physically I have no confidence at all..I shall concentrate on myself..getting to a healthier weight and then I will feel better on alot of levels..thank you x

Glad you've got supportive friends. If you're feeling unconfident about your appearance that is likely to come across even if subconsciously, so working on confidence is probably more important than losing weight but hopefully it will go together.

You say you didn't fancy him in the slightest. It's just a thought but do you think he picked up on that?
I'm sure you were friendly and chatty but maybe he was hoping for a bit more chemistry then realised it wasn't there.
This would have knocked his own confidence and that might have caused him to do the disappearing act.

I hadn't thought of it like that..maybe , but his profile said (in the smallprint) he was looking for someone "sexy and fit looking"..my friend was like "how does he think he's gonna get that anyway?" he looked like one of those guys that rides the back of your dodgem lol..I wasn't struck on first impressions either...but I have manners.

He sounds like a bit of a t**t from the smallprint, TBH. In fact, I've always been grateful that I don't exactly have 'model' looks to avoid attracting shallow men like that! Anyway sexy doesn't have to mean thin does it? Loads of men like the 'fuller figure'!

Ive been banking on that..a friend of mine remarked re poshspice that it must be like shagging a toast rack agreed re smallprint..but i'm not renowned for reading that til after the fact..time i did,methinks.