If a baby is an "accident", how do you prove it it was actually planned?
Let me explain...
I've been with my husband for 8 years. Got married 4 yrs ago. It became clear (and confirmed by my dh - I told him he was being stupid of course - and MIL, who makes it very obvious) that his sister is the favourite. His sist is the one who was planned. My husband and his brother were practice ones until a girl was born was born.
As a result my SIL has been the centre of attention. This first became apparent to me that this carried on by adults when me and DH got engaged and decided on a summer wedding..to which my SIL replied "oh I wanted to have our second baby that summer - she had a DS and planned a summer baby as her DH is a teacher).
My husband's moment taken away for the excitement of the prospect of a new baby..
My husband had begged me to try for a baby before engagement and I agreed only if we got engaged and started trying after getting engaged. We were anticipating a long period of trying as you can't predict there things. 6 weeks later. Preggo. (We discussed having 3 in total - privately)
Told family when we were 6 weeks along. Not long later..(2m) yes you guessed it, she announced she was preggo (Deffo planned as told me only took 1m to conceive). Already had her DS and another DS was born (again so she had two sons).
I was really happy but at the same time, sad that my DH had has his moment taken away - and mine too!.. again.
This was her second baby as I mentioned, (naturally DD wanted) She'd had her first baby moment. Her DS was born 8 weeks later, which now I love as our DSs are so close and so cute!!).
I was initially worried as she had another baby so my DS wouldn't be cared about as my MIL stated we had given her a second GS.
Last year we had our second - a DD! totally unexpected (we joked that DH family only makes boys) See above... About my SIL having been centre of attention since childhood)
My MIL was happy to finally get a granddaughter. As she craved that female bond with her daughter) - I get this totally. SIL was also pleased but always joked about having a house full of boys (she was gutted no DD but maintaied) - no more children!!! Lol. I didn't believe it.. discussed this with my DH.
My DD is 1yr old (when we were on holiday together)
We had discussed our 3rd to DH family and my MIL replied - why? You have a DS and DD.
Yes, you guessed it. Now SIL ""accidentally preggo! Conceived on hols, (holding out for DD- last attempt) but they had gone and given their baby stuff away... Knowing we've not long ago we had a baby and still have all these items.. hmmmm.
Pregnancy cooing incoming!!.. our DD sidelined (MIL lives and moved to be near her DD - absolutely get this) in the hope that her daughter has a girl. ( I think my MIL was gutted her DD had another DS and we had DD instead) My MIL already told us her first GS was her fave GChild!!
My SIL and her DH moved and got a bigger house- 2 extra bedrooms.
She knew we would like a third
We had a DS and DD. She has 2 DSs
She told her mum she needs her to stay in the country as she needs her (in-laws moving abroad)
She had finished her exams this summer and
My husband and BIL discussed having a vasectomies.. beforehand.
During this time SIL and DH told me (individually there's been cheating accusations in their marriage)
Her DH is on unstable medication..
I can't help but think history is repeating itself. I really got closer to SIL during hols so I'd be so gutted if this was was true 😞
Thoughts?
Am I paranoid?
I'm usually right about this kind of stuff.